I dont know if anyone has any advice or experience of this but thought i would put it out there and see how it goes. I have 3 children who lost their mum and now as the dad im their primary carer. We are getting there and doing rather well but unfortunately they have a nan who is a narccisist .and very toxic and id rather keep her away from the children as much as possible. Not always as she is still their nan but at least a.t a distance as i dont want my children to be influenced by her or to end up like her own children.. She is the mother of my partner who has passed so while i could always just hide behind my partner and say that its her mum so she needs to deal with now i find myself alone and with no protection from her. I have already set some bounderies with her but she steps on them always. Example…she had 2 of m.y children for the day and took them 100 miles away to visit a family friend of hers and didnt even ask me or even bother tell me. I found out after. Is it just me or is there something wrong with that? I wouldnt take a friends dog a 100 miles away without asking the owner. It made me feel so small and insignificant that i didnt even count as someone she should bother telling. I wouldnt go into detail as i wouldnt want to bore you but my 15 years of knowing her .and daughter and other family members leaves me in no doubt shes a narccisist . Its just how the hell can i deal with this as well as dealing with my childrens own emotional issues??
Omg I can 100% relate to toxic people and how they manipulate us but it’s difficult when kids are involved. With total certainty she should have asked your permission. Taking liberties and to be honest taking the p . I. S.s stay true to yourself and keep advising your children and don’t let them get away with it. No more contact if they don’t even respect enough to let you know. Very sly and she knew you would not like it. 🤛