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    KirstieA
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    Hi, I just want some advise / opinions really. So I had my son when I was 17 he is now 5, I am a single mum. His dad was allot older than me when I met him, long story short I was living in Birmingham with his dad at the time but he was very controlling to me and abusive so in the end I moved back home with my mum where I was safe with Rory. Me and his dad never got on because to many things had been said and what he’d done,  and I hadn’t grown up myself at the time I was young. Rorys dad has only seen him once in 4 years and I have tried everything but at the same time I don’t want him to see him  he is my world and I have done everything on my own. Rory said one day to me that he hasn’t got a dad it broke my heart, I don’t know how to explain to him why his dad doesn’t see him, and I don’t want him to feel confused or not loved by his dad. My son deserves to have a dad but unfortunately he is a horrible person and hasn’t done anything for Rory.no birthday card, Christmas because he said he didn’t belive in it. I feel angry because I have not done anything bad and I’m angry because my son deserves everything he is a beautiful boy. And I can’t understand why his dad doesn’t want to have him in his life. It’s really tiring and heart braking I don’t understand.

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    plogermans
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    Hi,

    I don’t know how fathers can be like this and not want to see their children or even send cards at birthdays and christmas. Perhaps it’s their own upbringing. There are many like it unfortunately and nothing you can do. My son never got a card from his mother beyond his 5th birthday, no letters, no money, nothing ! She was incarcenated but even more time to send cards and letters. But her own parents were like it so goes some way to explaining how she was. It is not your fault so don’t be angry and don’t waste your time and emotions on his father as he’s not worth it and it is his loss not being in the life of his beautiful son. Best wishes to you and Rory.

    David

     

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