My kids mum is making my life a misery
19 August 2021 at 9:52 pm #57730
Can anyone help with any advice on what to do with my ex please? I split up with her 2 years ago and has constantly made seeing my kids as hard as possible ever since. For the first year I wasn’t allowed to see them to the extent that I drove to hers for my daughter’s 4th birthday to hlgivw her presents and I was told to “get the #£@* off my doorstep and take that crap with you. She isn’t having it”. Considering I moved from Sheffield to Cambridge and it was a 2 and a half hour drive either way was only one of the reasons to wind me up that day. She’s also turned my 16 year old boy against me so much he wants mlnothimg to do with me. In the last 6 months or so I’ve been ‘allowed’ to drive up and have my daughter from half 12 until 6 at the latest every other Saturday. But even now she finds any excuse to cancel that. My new partners kids haven’t met her yet as they go to their dads every single Saturday at 5 (which my partner fought in court for every other weekend so we could do things in the weekend and lost). She’s got them 2 out of the 6 weekends in the school holidays. The last one didn’t fall on my weekend with my daughter and my ex wouldn’t swap them, the other is bank holiday weekend which is my weekend. I got a message yesterday saying she was taking her away that weekend now so I can’t see her until the 11th of September which is bad enough bit made worse by the fact we’ve told my partners kids they were going up to meet her and told my daughter they were coming up too. Her birthday weekend she was “too I’ll to go anywhere” but when I drove back past her house half an hour later her car had gone. The time after that she’d told my daughter she was going to a country park with her sisters kids on the Saturday I was supposed to be having her so I had a massive tantrum that she wanted to go with her mum and not me. I finally got her to come by saying she could video call the kids down here if she came which then prompted her to throw abuse at me calling me a blackmailer. She stops at her new partners house all the time but she’s “never stopping at yours. Not now, not in 2 years, not in 6” because apparently I don’t have enough of a relationship with my daughter. She’s even got her to start calling the bloke her “other daddy”. She’s only been with the guy 6 months! I could go on forever with the stories. I literally have excuses more weekends than I don’t on why I can’t see her but I don’t have thousands to take her to court with and it’s got me to the point where I’m crying or getting mad with everyone every time I get another crappy message from her.
Please help me someone before it tips me over the edge
J20 August 2021 at 3:25 pm #57827
Sounds very frustrating. It is possible to go through the courts and get a standard arrangement without using lawyers. I did it in the past. Feel free to message me if you need advice.20 August 2021 at 3:30 pm #57828
Hey Steve, how much did it cost you to do that? Was your scenario more amicable or was your ex as adamant that you couldn’t take your kids to your house for a weekend? I know she’ll use dirty tricks in court as she’s tried it with my kids, family members and my current partner to try and drag my name through the mud.20 August 2021 at 3:38 pm #57831
Its about £100 for MIAM mediation appointment. The government has a scheme for £500 of free mediation voucher. You could ask mediator about that.
Court application costs £215. I was not allowed to have kids stay overnight, so took it to court.20 August 2021 at 4:06 pm #57835
Thanks. I’ll look into that. I know mediation will be a waste of time but you can’t go to court until you’ve done it20 August 2021 at 7:32 pm #57843
I got son without father and my family left me too. I just stop thinking and feeling and let it go. People say justice comes from heaven …I’m praying my 3montgs old won’t be hurt by nannies or distant relatives and just accepted ill not have what I want as usual….