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    rosario144
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    Hi all,

    New to the site.

    Last night was my first as a single, far from my kids, has been horrible. Does this feeling goes away? I am at work now, can’t do anything, cannot concentrate. The last 6 months have been the worst nightmare, my ex got paranoid that i had and have many woman ( I have none) she link me with ladies that i never met in my life, is a constant obsession, couldn’t take anymore and yesterday i left. I still don’t understand what is the worst feeling, stay at home with her or far from my kids.

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    Dpsebast
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    Hi Rosario

    Sorry to hear your news. I am also going through a separation and currently living in family home.  I have two beautiful children I do not want to leave, but my wife would like me out. The atmosphere between her and me is not great. We try and keep things normal for the kids, but am sure they know something is not right.

    the thought of being in a home with no kids is something I am really not looking forward to even through I am looking to share 50:50 responsibility.

    Best of luck and hope things work out.

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    Andrew uk
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    Things do work out, eventually. Can you see them still? You need to work out a time when you can. Mine moved out in June 2020. It was hard. I thought it wasn’t going to be for long! To be honest I can’t remember what I did that first night. An early night? Order takeaway. That always makes me feel better. Hope that’s not too flippant. You need to do the things you enjoy. Message me if you want.

    #59227 Report

    rosario144
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    Thanks for the replies,

    Yes I can still see them, one is 8 and the other 21. Not a problem with the 21. My eldest is supporting me a lot in this situation, fortunately. Now is time to organize my life and adjust to the new situation.

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    Andrew uk
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    Good. Glad u can see them. You have lots of support here.

    #59231 Report

    Rdf24
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    Hi Rosario

    The first weekend without my kids was awful. I moved into our caravan and missed the kids so much. I can’t really remember what I did that weekend but seem to remember trying to buy bedding and stuff for the kids and just keep busy.

    It does get easier, and now I have them pretty much 50/50 and we are in a nice rhythm. I now get to really enjoy the time I spend with my kids but also get some downtime when they aren’t with me.

    I hope it all works out for you and your kids.

    Cheer

    Roy

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    cncoffee
    Participant

    It is a good thing you can see them, that alone would help me let go faster and I can bet you would find all the support you would be needing here. I have been reading stories as a guest for a long period of time but found courage to come in as a member.

    I wish you the very best.

    Brian.

    #59726 Report

    rosario144
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    Hi Brian,

    I feel very lucky that I can see them but it’s never enough. Tonight cinema with my eldest and tomorrow all day with the little one. I am focusing on the positive sides.

    Thanks for the support

    Rosario

     

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