First time poster. So my daughter is under a dermatologist in the uk and has been for years. She has to take a daily dose of antihistamines and use medicated soaps and creams. Now my daughter went to visit her father in Australia and I sent her over with all her medication and instructions. Now she is home, I have found her meds havent been taken everyday, her creams barely used and wash barely used. I cant call her father yet as he is on a flight home, but little one said without any prompting from me” ex’s new girlfriend, told me not to take my medication as I dont need it and her parents are doctors” so she was refused her meds.
Little one had issues with her skin whilst away and no treatment was given.
I am mad because ex shouldn’t have allowed it, his girlfriend isnt her mother and has only just met our daughter and ex’s new girlfriends parents, legally shouldn’t interfere without seeing my daughters medical notes.
I am thinking of taking this further as if she had of had a severe reaction, she wasnt on her meds and they don’t know her history. Should I seek legal advice or just drop it. My ex doesn’t listen to my concerns, or show me any respect (he’s all loved up) but I can’t send little one out there if he isnt going to look after her medical welfare .
Who do you think you can take this further with? The father has as much right as you to make decisions about your child’s medical treatment. If he’s decided to go against medical advice that’s his right….
As for reactions, beyond taking an antihistamine you don’t mention Anaphylaxis then presumably it would only cause discomfort not be life threatening?
That all said, I would formally email him asking the question why is there so much unused medication etc given that there was enough solely for the duration of the trip. open ended and means that it’s not accusatory. Then you can discuss the situation hopefully amicably but you have the issue in black and white.
I’m really sorry to hear what you are going through. It’s awful for both you and your daughter.
Your ex has parental responsibility? Well then yes he has to ensure that your daughter’s basic needs are met and includes her health.
I would ask him to clarify what happened regarding the medication during your daughter’s visit then take her to the doctor so that the current condition of her skin can be officially noted.
Doctors don’t give out lotions and potions easily so there’s a real need for continuity of your daughter’s treatment.
I’ve had a similar experience to you regarding father who refused to give meds. Stick to your guns. If you did nothing, refused medication and your daughter’s skin was really poorly then Social care would be down on you for not meeting your child’s needs.