My ex left me for a younger woman.

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    Angeljolene
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    Hey guys.

    My kids dad after 12 years left me for a younger girl, at the time he was 39 she was 22,  i didnt find out till 2 months after by someone else. As months we by,  about 4 months. I found out she was 4 months pregnant. It killed me and that to this day does.

    When he left i desroyed myself mentally i blame myself for every thing as to way he left i even kept texting him begging (i mean why did i do that to myself). I went out drinking alot i hired babysitters to watch my kids while i did it. I ran back to work, the work place that he pulled me out of,  i was constantly at work. I just didnt want to be at home.

    In the end i stopped talking to him and stopped the begging 🙈… As time went on i could see things more clearly about myself it took me 2 years to realise it all…loosing alot of things made me realise stuff loosing as in good friends and job… When i came to a stand still… I could see my kids needed me. So i moved house so much better and i spend more time fixing what was broke which was my little family,  its hard,

    They say ghost the person. I see it we all can do that. But how do you get the person out your head how do you get what they did out.. So i started counciling it helps to get stuff off your chest..but it still in your head..i read books that deffo helps esspecialy the katie piper books. But yet it still there mild but still there…

    I for one never stopped him from seeing our children as its not there fault. He doesnt so much intrestest only when it suits him. He hardly pays for them some months he missis out as he saying he had to pay for this and that. But always say thats not our fault. I need to take im to child maintaines as need consistantcy as all this i didnt ask for he chose to do it so why should we suffer for hes choses.

    Sorry i rambled but thank you for reading ❤

    #47175 Report

    ocean27
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    Hey- sorry to be reading this but well done you for getting help for yourself. Your ex put you through the worse betrayal so don’t beat yourself up you did nothing wrong. It’s so unfair how men always move on and have everything and the women left crushed but men never heal and never just concentrate on themselves always put there focus on someone else so one day karma will happen. Call the CMS up tomorrow and that sorted so he pays you what he legally has to each month as at least you no what is happening then. It’s the start of a new year soon and that year might be your year xx

    #47176 Report

    Angeljolene
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    Thank you means alot…your right tho,  men can easily leave and make focuse on someone else…us woman are left to pick up the pieces of what they left…but i see it as im not a victim of this as im surviver from what hes done and slowly growing..hes the weak one as he realise on her and not build on his self. I believe if you wanna leave you leave to become a better person not be a coward and leave for someone else. 

    Thank you for texting me 😊

    #47205 Report

    Family Time
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    Absolutely understand this, 11 months post betrayal and the pain is still raw , you will come through this the stronger person self sufficient and in love with yourself , well done for speaking up and getting help , weak men and women jump from relationship to relationship those who spend time repairing themselves are always mentally better off x

    #47207 Report

    Angeljolene
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    Aarrr hun your going through it as well…god hope your doing okay….yes i believe that to..the ones who leave for someone else is weak as they rely on the person their with…i just dont understand why the hell get them pregnant when you cant be assed with the ones you already have….

    I did see them together with there baby  in town was a monday…they was going to register him…god it killed me..but i never coused a seen as i saw jt as ill never win or get anywhere…

    Us woman who come out from rockbottom emotionaly are survivers….i never look at myself as a victim now at the time i did…

    Thank you for texting me means alot.. Also its nice you can hear others storys and help each other xxx

     

    #47208 Report

    Family Time
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    Hello , taking each day as they come had court for our two children he doesn’t want a relationship with them that hurts they are 6 and 7 bless them he plays happy families with her and her three , karma as people keep reminding me is real , that must of hurt to see them both , don’t understand how people are so self centered they don’t see the distruction they leave behind x

    #47211 Report

    Angeljolene
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    Omg hun i am sorry to hear that it sad to hear it… You know what hun karma is a ***** and best surved cold..that my sweet will come it will come when your a hole lot more stronger…your already strong because your doing it and its still proper raw….

    I mean how can he not wanna know hes own blood…hes such a manchild pisses me off….but they have to look good to please them..its hunnymoon period at moment…sit back and watch it all change when that ends….

    Hun become strong beat him by becoming everything you can be….the karma will be you doing well and moving forward and becoming strong…you got this you just got to find that path at the same time greive and let all your emotions out…xxx

    #47243 Report

    Family Time
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    Absolutely right , I have put all my time and energy in to my family and work , I shall make this as our children deserve someone to pull them through and life has become about them and how they feel too , always here to talk too x

    #47246 Report

    Angeljolene
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    Brillent you got this…..yes deffo same for you if ever you need to let off steam im just a text away..xxx

    #47310 Report

    Effusive
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    Afternoon, Angeljolene.

    Being constantly victimised by intrusive thoughts of what they did is incredibly traumatising, but it does get better.

    It did for me anyway, almost instantaneously, after my estranged fiancée of well over 10 years literally called me a few days before Christmas to tell me what she had done.

    You’ll have your good days and bad days, but as long as you have an outlet to distract your mind when it’s drifting and good people around you, you’ll be OK.

    Us humans are lot more resilient than we give ourselves credit for.

    You got this!

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