Mum's rights!?

[Cakeboss4]

Hi all new to the forum an in need of some advice… I split up with my ex 3 years after he walked out on me an my 3 children. He has them twice a week currently but he has suddenly decided he wants the 50/50…it may sound selfish but he walked out on… I don’t want to only see my children half the week do I have to let him have them 50% I know it’s what’s in the kids best interest but he works long hours an would only see them for a few hours at night anyway!

He also threw into the mix he’d spoke to a barrister an by law if he has them 50% he doesn’t have to pay any maintenence… I’m struggling financially anyway an this would really effect us I currently pay for all uniforms, clubs everything. This was only mentioned after the request but I feel has a major part to his side.. Just seems weird…. Any words of wisdom for a heart broken an struggling mum??

[Empty]

Sure, tell him if he wants 50-50 to take you to court.

[Cakeboss4]

Will I have to pay if he takes me to court though he threatened mediation but I looked into it and Id have to pay £300 which I can’t afford!?

I also read that judges don’t favour mothers anymore that it’s what’s best for the kids an if he deems that 50% that’s upto the judge… I just think it’s so unfair he put me an my kids through hell now he wants to uproot them and upset everyone again x

[Empty]

More likely a magistrate and no they still favour Mum’s / resident parents massively. If he is asking for mediation he should pay for it. Also, speak to the mediators themselves.

Publicly funded mediation: http://find-legal-advice.justice.gov.uk

Support with any parenting problem: Family Lives 9am-9pm weekdays, 10am-3pm weekends FREE helpline 0808 800 2222 http://familylives.org.uk

 

Support with any parenting problem: Family Action 6pm – 10pm weekdays, 10am – 1pm weekends FREE helpline 0808 8020 2220 https://www.family-action.org.uk/what-we-do/children-families/parent-support/

They will consider what’s best for the children and from what you’ve said that is staying the way things are. Courts are only there to bang your heads together if you can’t come to a decision, which is why mediation should be the first step – but at his expense. Courts will then examine the case and encourage reasonable access – that won’t necessarily mean 50-50.

 

 

[Nightrunner]

Unfortunately  or fortunately mothers are still massively favoured and Judge rinder was saying this on his programme.

If he is the kind of person who plays mind games it may just be that but get some professional advice.

[Cakeboss4]

Great thanks.. An yes defo Nightrunner I went through years of mental abuse just took me a long time to wake up an smell the coffee… When I did I relationship deteriorated and he ended up leaving for a much much younger girl!

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