Mums first weekend off

[mammabear]

My baby is with his dad for the first weekend away from me, he’s 4.5 months – feeling emotional and guilty for having time away from him – anyone else relate?

Dads, how does it feel being away from your child/children – just asking as I am having serious separation anxiety from my boy.

Posting this after a couple of glasses of red wine, feeling all sorts of emotions right now. Is this normal?!!!

[Blossom]

Sending you a big hug.

What you’re feeling is totally normally, you carried him inside you for 9 months and have cared for him for the last 4.5 months on your own so to hand him over to his dad for the weekend is a big deal. Respect to you for starting the contact so early to enable father and son to bond, it will get easier with time I promise.

Take this time to focus on you

[mstime]

Perfectly normal feeling. My mate came round last weekend to look after my 2 boys while i popped out to see a couple of friends at the pub. Got to say that i hated it and couldnt wait to get home !  I wont be doing that again . As a dad ive learnt to get the football indoors ( not the pub) and the beer indoors too.

Take care

[mammabear]

Thank you @blossom for the hugs and message, much appreciated. Just feeling really rubbish at the moment and I hope it gets easier with time. I felt so exhausted and burnt out last night, I keep telling myself that I need time to myself to recover but the guilt of not having him with me does not go away. Xx

[Blossom]

It definitely gets easier with time, but you’re so new in this journey so please be kind to yourself. 

In time you will start to enjoy this time you have just for you and be able to prioritise your needs rather than your son’s. You’ve got this!

[mammabear]

@blossom – thanks for the words of encouragement 😊

@mstime good to know that it’s not just mums feel this way when away from their kids 😊 it’s tough isn’t it, trying to get that balance of self care etc.. still trying to find my feet

[mstime]

We all feel this way when we away from our kids. Its a natural feeling. Its a good thing. A protective thing. We cant help it. We are the parents. I know im not going out again. Or at least not without them coming along too. xx

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