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    Peppers
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    Hi, I just realised I am expecting and I’m pretty sure I want to keep the baby. I have had an abortion before, as I wasn’t as financially or emotionally ready but this time I feel I can do this. I am in a relationship but it has been somewhat tricky the last few weeks and we spoke about taking a break before me realising I am pregnant. Before I speak to my partner I also want to research what kind of benefits are avaiable for single mothers? I ideally would want to do it together with a partner but for the peace of mind I want to know what are the other options.

    I am from EU but been living UK for just under 9 years, I am educated to a masters degree and currently have a full time employment on above the minimum salary. I know i’m in a very good position in these terms, but also I am here alone, with no family etc. I support my mother financially so knowing what financial support is there when I am not working is very crucial to me.

    I live in south west london – lambeth, and rent privately. So far been in this flat for 1.5 years, possibly can stay longer, the landlord is not a ***** but if not possible, how does it look searching fr flats when you’re single mum?

     

    #45556 Report

    Renata L
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    I think it’s OK that you are searching for information, I feel you. I don’t know about the UK, but I know that there are a lot of groups for single parents where you can find support and information. Of course, it’s hard, but it’s possible. You can search for all the information on government sites, many have financial support for single parents.

    I am sure everything will be fine.

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    Maria_91
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    Hi Peppers,

    I cannot really help you much unfortunately. I’m kind of in the same boat as you. I’m 4 months pregnant but the relationship has been so bad that we need to take a break. I lived in east London before but the house I lived in burned down, so I’m also looking for a new place and options to live. I mostly looked into what childcare is available after my maternity leave but its generally very high. Anyway, I just wanted to say hi and good luck to you and maybe someone will be more helpful than me :).

     

     

    #45580 Report

    Peppers
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    Hi, thanks for your replies. As i expected my boyfriend run away the next morning after I told him I’m pregnant.

    nearly 4 years of relationship ended in no time, I think he set up a new record of running away from responibilites.

    how do I do pregnancy alone? I’m more scared of this than having a baby!

     

    #45639 Report

    Maria_91
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    Hmm, maybe give it some time. I think we all need some time to process and guys need a bit more. Unlike us they don’t feel anything really, they are just outside somehow. My bf and me were also on and off and he didnt want to keep the baby, so when I told him I would like to keep it he broke up. But about two weeks later he wanted to talk and he changed his mind to some extent at least :).

    How many weeks are you? I’m also a bit scared but mostly because of giving birth and the time after. Up to now it has been ok, except for feeling sick and tired all time but its getting better.

    #45646 Report

    Peppers
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    hi Maria, I’m 5 weeks in so very early on.

    im still dealing with the breakup sadness so can’t really feel happy for the baby.
    I haven’t got any family here, only mum back in Poland. Friends are kinda skeptic all about decision so also can’t share much with them. I’m sad that I’ll be going through it by myself.

     

     

    #45651 Report

    Maria_91
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    Ohh I can relate. Felt so bad to have to go through all of this alone when my bf broke up with me. Thought that would have been a really nice experience to share with someone. But then again we are constantly arguing now, so i don’t know if this is good for the baby. Do you think the breakup is for real this time? I hope you can have some distraction :).

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