Mum 44 looking to make friends Somerset/ South West
19 November 2019 at 7:38 pm #33059
I think many of us just appreciate your time and effort in doing it. Thanks Mark From Marcia19 November 2019 at 9:56 pm #33066
Thank you for the support, I must admit I’m a bit daunted, I’ve been kicking around the forum for years, I’ve never had anything to do with the groups and never imagined I’d set one up, I guess to my shame I’d stereotyped who would coordinate the groups, I imagined it would be a slightly older mum. Obviously that’s changed.
The delay was mainly mine, I’ve been so busy beyond just being a parent which is busy enough. I’m fighting against my council in court, not because I’ve done anything wrong but because of the way they are treating people. I’ve also been abroad visiting my ex wife’s family which took up a lot of my mind both before and after the stay, I get on with them very well but I was trying to rebuild bridges between them and my ex….it’s a long story. I’m not trying to make excuses as I know I need to do better for you all but now that the initial steps are done I’m looking forward to getting things and setting up a meet.19 November 2019 at 10:30 pm #33069
Amazing stuff Mark !! ⭐⭐🎉⭐⭐
Shall we start thinking about when and where to meet up?! So that we’re all ready to go once we’ve got the green light from Gingerbread..19 November 2019 at 10:46 pm #33070
Hi Melissa, suggestions would be fantastic! I think most of the group so far will be Taunton area but we will need to think of everyone.
As for dates I think it will be best to wait until a closed forum is set up, safeguarding everyone has to be a top issue and as this is an open forum I don’t feel it’s good to be too precise with the meet ups here.
M19 November 2019 at 11:08 pm #33075
One thing I’d like you all to think about for a while is the nature of the meetups, some may just want to meet up away from the kids for a bit of adult time, too many parents feel isolated from other adults so it would be great to meet up for a coffee and a chinwag without worrying about little ones. Some may want playdates for their children primarily, as my boy is an only child I remember too well the guilt that he wasn’t spending enough time with other children. Age groups of the children are also relevant, my 13 year old boy gets on with all ages of children but if every time there’s a meet it’s based on toddlers he will soon loose interest, our children need to be thought of.
Any other points you think of please shout ☺20 November 2019 at 9:37 am #33079
Good Morning All
Thankyou Mark, you are a superstar for this. 🙂
some ideas on what and where to go…possible. I think we should look at a mixture of meets up with kids and some without. I love my son and happy to do anything with him but even mummy needs me and beer time !! 🙂
Vivary Park – For ones that don’t have transport
French Weir – local for none transport.
Puxton Park – Would be good for the older ones aswell.
We the curious, Bristol – Good for the older ones aswell.
For the ones that are further afield, I’m sure that we would all be able to pitch in on the cars (I would have space in mine).
Just some rough ideas. 🙂
Lou x20 November 2019 at 10:20 am #33082
Thank you again to Mark for setting the wheels in motion, I think it is good that the setting up is moving at a steady pace, this gives us a chance to think and plan and work out what this group needs to be.
I think when we meet it should be in a neutral space so that there is no pressure on anyone to be somewhere they feel uncomfortable.
I wonder if we need to begin to think about how often we want the group to meet ie once a week, once a fortnight, once a month so that we can think about what kind of commitment we can make to the group.
I am also mindful that whilst I have been a single parent for twelve years and am happy to be honest and open about my situation, I realize that others may be just starting this journey I think we need to bear this in mind.
I am with Lou, I am happy to have a mixture of both. I think we need to get to know each other a little better first though i know myself how nervous and awkward it can be meeting new people.20 November 2019 at 11:59 am #33094
Thanks for the replies.
Gingerbread has suggested in the setting up a group stuff to rent out a room perhaps in a community hall but I think that this would be a little too stressful for most folk, walking into a room full of strangers would be quite hard. As M1979 has said it would be better to meet in a neutral place, it would be great if the first couple of meetups could be somewhere where folk can just pop over for a chat and meet each other, after that we can think about car sharing etc?
I think that as we all get to know one another the frequency of meets will naturally follow, I’m guessing that meets for coffee will be much more frequent than days out, I’m willing to be as flexible as possible once I know what people want.20 November 2019 at 12:52 pm #33102
Completely agree, its very daunting to walk into a small room with one person, let alone a lot. Agree it needs to be neutral, maybe the Coffee Shop in French weir and then people can join or they can carry on walking to the park and there isn’t any pressure to be there…maybe?
Sounds like it is all heading in the right direction, so fingers crossed for a great group. 🙂
Lou x20 November 2019 at 1:33 pm #33103
I like the idea of the coffee shop in French weir, I havnt been to the weir for years so have no idea where the coffee shop is, it’s a nice place though so the kids can have a run.
I will have to see who’s interested when the group is set up so I can work out logistics, one person who is interested lives in Street which maybe difficult for them to get to but we are definitely on the right track.
X20 November 2019 at 1:52 pm #33106
It is just up from the park and the park has now been expanded, so there is a lot more to do. Next to the coffee shop is a bridge which takes you to the Longrun, which is good for walking around.
Im sure others will come up with good ideas too and we will have loads of ideas to thrash around for this group….its exciting :0)
Lou x20 November 2019 at 2:48 pm #33113
Hi All, a coffee shop sounds good. It’s funny that Gb mentioned hiring a room?! Don’t think we need any more organisational demands!! I went to a Gb group meeting in a café before when I lived in London, was fine. If with kids somewhere that’s kid-friendly…
Would it be nice to meet up with our kids first of all? (Much as I am craving grown-up time!!) To get a picture of who we all are, and then after by ourselves? I don’t mind either way, just a suggestion. Also, obvs there will be question of organising babysitters if we’re meeting w/o kids. Personally, I have yet to find a babysitter. I just have a friend who is helping out but she doesn’t want paying so there’s a limit to how many times I can ask her (she already babysits for another weekly commitment I have.) But I WILL find one because I sooooo badly need some me-time socialising..anyone else???!! 🤣🤣🤣
Plus, I have no car at the moment and am based in Street. I work bet 11-2 every day. So if we are up for meeting in Street of a weekday morning (some Xmas shopping anyone?! Costa is there right by the King Arthur playground..) I am there no prob!! I can do Sat or Suns to other locations as long on the bus route!! (And Sunday times will apply…) but after that it does get a little trickier.. I am open to suggestions though!
Melissa20 November 2019 at 4:01 pm #33116
Melissa, yes I totally agree with the first meet being with the kids, it will make life so much easier.
M20 November 2019 at 5:18 pm #33121
Oh, that’s good.
Is there anyone else without a car or their own transport?23 November 2019 at 9:15 pm #33223
Hi everyone. I am also happy meeting up both with or without children. Mark if you need any help with anything we are here to help.