MOVING COMPLETELY NEW PLACE AND STARTKNG A NEW LIFE
24 December 2018 at 1:42 am #18912
Hello single moms and dads.
I’ve been widowed 1st december 2016, when my.husband died suddenly just 4 days before our sons 1st birthday.
I used to live in a big city back in my county but moved to this village in Northern Ireland for my late husband. After his death i feel extremely isolated, nothing to do here and the only reason that kees me here is his family who support mr as much as they can (which is nt too much). And anothr reason that they really love my son and would do anything for him.
I am thinking abiut moving to London and trying to start a nee life there, considering there woukd ve more opportunities, more diversity, more things to do.
At this stage I dont even know if i could afford it.
Was wondering is there anyone here who moved to somehere new withut knoing anyone there, ehst was your experiece like?24 December 2018 at 2:55 pm #18929
Thanks for reply. I work full time and pay full time for childminder.
There is noting his family could involve me in. We are people of very different lifestyles. I was doing some research over London. Prices are mad, but forums say that people are very frindly as most of them are there to start a new life too. But of corse reality can differ.
I just know that if i stay where i am will end up having super boring life and just get more stuck.24 December 2018 at 8:51 pm #18931
Sorry to hear about your situation Nora, I know what its like to feel isolated in rural areas with not much to do.
Have you thought about moving to Dublin? its the big city in Ireland and you’ll be more closer to your childs family then if you were to move to London.
Hope it works out for you.25 December 2018 at 1:16 am #18932
Hi, I’d agree with Anonymous that London is a difficult place to be on your own. You would need to be very outgoing, resilient & very well paid to cope.
Dublin seems a better option, it is young & vibrant, plenty of technology firms and a good economy. Or if you prefer to be in the UK, perhaps Bristol or Exeter. Both university cities with plenty of work & young people but less cut-throat, and less polluted than London.
Bristol is an easyJet hop to Belfast so your husband’s family could visit easily. How exciting to choose a new start 😊26 December 2018 at 3:54 pm #18941
I wouldn’t want to move to South Ireland. Would like London or some town or city that is close enough to London say within an hour by train. But then comes the question of affordability. I don’t want the fact that I am single parent restrict me doing things that I would love. We live only once. And at this stage I just want to live somewhere that would be enjoyable.26 December 2018 at 9:25 pm #18945
Hi , im a single mum to 3yr old girl with no financial support or involvement of her dad , i have no single family member around either . I also work full time .Words cant really describe how hard its been to be in this situation. I ve been out 3 times this year as i cant afford a babysitter (from £11/hr) i have also tried to meet someone but simply could not go out on a date as there was nobody to look after my daughter ! I just gave up ..i really dont have any social life , the only people i socialise with are other mums i met through playgroups ,they are all in relationships. It does help tremendously to have some family support, childcare costs are extremly high , half terms , holidays etc . children at the young age get ill a lot being around others children in nursery or childminders , u have to take time off work often. Costs of living are very high here in London . Obviously if u have no financial worries or very well paid job then its completely diffrent story , u wont be bored here for sure as there is a constant supply of all sorts of activities or attractions , whatever u decide wish good luck xx26 December 2018 at 11:33 pm #18948
No, I am not going to have well paid job. Just anything in can get to keep me going. I don’t really have a clue, when I make decision how I’d organise all the things related to move.
I do understand what you mean. I been thinking it might be a different form of isolation. But this village is so boring, I feel like I might go crazy this way.27 December 2018 at 9:39 pm #18968
Hi I am a single Dad, and I can’t wait to move out of London. People may look at it with rose tinted glasses but from someone who was born and bred here it’s not a great place to live-especially as a lone parent. I have a 2 bedroom flat in a block of 3 floors with no garden and it isn’t great- but the rent is £1300 pcm. +council tax, water, gas/electric you are looking at the best part of £1500pcm before food and any other bills. I live in a private rented accommodation and it makes working pointless because it literally all gets taken on bills. It’s so depressing. My landlord has decided to sell up now so we are going to be made homeless aswell -great! Im looking at moving out of London someone gets stabbed here once a week, not a very friendly place or a nice place to raise a child. I’ve got parents here that don’t help for nothing aswell so I know how that feels! Hope you find an answer.. why not look at somewhere like Edinburgh? that’s cheaper than London, great for kids/quality of life, much more friendly and still has the job opportunities aswell..
Anyway good luck.27 December 2018 at 9:56 pm #18969
Hi Edward! Can I ask what part of London you live?
I was looking at Crystal palace atea the reviews were good.
Also maybe I’ll look at some towns close to London.27 December 2018 at 10:18 pm #18971
I’m in Lewisham it’s about 20 minutes from Crystal Palace and I know that area well. My cousin runs a church ministry in the neighbouring area (Anerley) and is starting a youth boxing club to try to tackle the knife crime in the area. Crystal Palace was a run down area that has been gentrified with coffee shops and hipster culture. It’s a better area than the surrounding areas (but overpriced). It does have a good sports Center though lol.27 December 2018 at 10:28 pm #18972
Are there any other affordable but safe areas that you know?27 December 2018 at 10:39 pm #18973
Bromley areas are quite nice (about 30 min from Crystal Palace) and a lot more affordable. Try Chislehurst, Petts Wood, Bromley, Orpington, Sidcup, Bexley. They are in Kent but on the border of South London and very accessible to central London via train.27 December 2018 at 10:55 pm #18974
Thank you Edward, all this info is helpful xx