Moved on but still cannot allow myself to relax sometimes

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    christinaw28
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    Left my abusive husband a year ago now and although really happy still cannot seem to completely get rid of how he made me feel.

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    Kathymumofone
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    I had a clear out. I threw out everything I associated with ex, redecorated anew, swapped rooms around, made everything bright & sunny. It still took 2 years to feel peaceful.

    I found music helped a lot. Try something new that absorbs you. You’ll get there.

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    Chez86
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    I read a post the other day about a freedom programme, have a look at that. There is a very small section for free and it’s £12 to buy the whole package, you can do it online or I think there are meetings across the UK too.

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    christinaw28
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    Thank you both. I agree that the internet and trying new things defo helps. 🙂

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    welshdad
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    I think a lot of it is kind of de-programming.  Someone tells you something long enough and while you are already beaten down you begin to believe it.  You have to start over as Kathy said above..a clearout etc and change of scenery.  Accept you will never be the person you were before you met them but likewise you will never let yourself be the person you were while you were with them…you can be who you want to be now…think of the future and focus on your dreams and go make them a reality.  You are stronger now not weaker…leaving can be a brave thing to do.  You are going to be ok 😊  I’m 3 years after my split and I cant relax fully still, but everyone is different…as are their situations.

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    christinaw28
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    So true. I think I live in the past too much rather than allowing myself to move on. Getting better at it but still sometimes remember back to my ex putting me down and going on about my appearance. I allowed it to affect talking to someone else.

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