Hey there, Just joined today only just found this site…
Basically I am a 31 year old mother of two beautiful boys ages 9 and 10, and they are my world, I think about them every minute of every day. But although my boys are constantly not in my heart, they sadly aren’t constantly in my home 🙁 They live with their father who loved them away 5 years ago now… was meant to be joined custody but because he was main carer of them I could do nothing to stop him when he moved them away…. I don’t drive…I now only see them in the school holidays. I miss parents evenings, school plays, and everything in between…. Although we have a wonderful bond when when they are with me I have a permanent whole in my heart. I have mental health issues as well as a learning difficulty called dyspraxia which makes life very hard in general.
I’m not posting this for sympathy, I’m just hoping that maybe there are other mothers out there in the same boat as me? There is a certain stigma attached with mothers with children not living with them and I feel so alone it in at times…Any responses would be very appreciated. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.
I’d do anything to be closer to them, but the problem is i’d have zero support network there or other family and as an adult with learning difficulties and also mental health I know this could be a disaster….
My dad kindly drives them to me in the holidays and I have to sort out the train money to get them back and then myself back here, which is hard finding the train money but always find a way as its the only time I have with them. theres no chance in hell the father would help with travel costs etc no.