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    Shenrry007
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    Hi so a week ago my wife told me it was all over that shes not in love with me anymore and that shes unhappy. Weve been together 10 years and married for 4. To come home and tell me she knows theres someone out there that can make her happier than I do just kills me.

    We have two amazing boys together 4 year old and 6 months. They live with her because she has the house. It’s hard to transition from seeing them all day everyday to 3 or 4 days a week.

    I have support of friends but sometimes I just feel they dont get it. I tell them I’m fine but in reality I’m struggling and not coping at all. Just would like other people to talk to about it who’s going through the same thing.

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    Dorota
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    Yes. I have heard from my husband ‘whats marriage when there is no feeling and no happiness’, after 14 years of being together. When he was certainly keeping himself happy, with everyone else but me. We have two boys together.

    Its hard as everything is still new. And i do not have friends or family around. I am hearing from others, that it is getting better with time. So i am hanging to this hope. Here if you need to talk.

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    Liane
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    I was never married to my childrens father. Not through want of trying but due to parental divorce having a swayed view of marriage in the context of ‘promise’.

    When they divorced both found it hard my grandparents cared for us alot. My dad got with his affair and my mum moved out.

    It was so stressful.

    Consider yourself lucky that your children are young. I know its cliched but you can draw up proper contact arrangements.

    We had alternate weekends. Which coincided with our attendance at Gingerbread groups.

    It broke up that whole, hour here, hour there thing.

    Try to agree on something solid.

    Due to the reason my partner and I seperated our contact with our children is kept minimal. This, unfortunately isn’t our choice. I’d love to see my kids every day but there was concerns surrounding inplications of our relationship that the social workers wanted to iron out.

    Now my eldest is considered Gillick Competent she should have more say regarding contact decisions but I’m left to convince the family courts of this merit.

    Every cloud has a silver lining.

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    Liane
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    I was never married to my childrens father. Not through want of trying but due to parental divorce having a swayed view of marriage in the context of ‘promise’.

    When they divorced both found it hard my grandparents cared for us alot. My dad got with his affair and my mum moved out.

    It was so stressful.

    Consider yourself lucky that your children are young. I know its cliched but you can draw up proper contact arrangements.

    We had alternate weekends. Which coincided with our attendance at Gingerbread groups.

    It broke up that whole, hour here, hour there thing.

    Try to agree on something solid.

    Due to the reason my partner and I seperated our contact with our children is kept minimal. This, unfortunately isn’t our choice. I’d love to see my kids every day but there was concerns surrounding implications of our relationship that the social workers wanted to iron out.

    Now my eldest is considered Gillick Competent she should have more say regarding contact decisions but I’m left to convince the family courts of this merit.

    Every cloud has a silver lining.

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