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    My son is 9 and attends a primary school with his brother who is 7,  it’s a feeder school to a high school next door, my 9 year old son was happy that he would be going to this high school with his friends.  Now his mother is moving to a brand new house within a walking distance of another high school.  Today he’s told me he wants to go to this new school and he can do it because it’s his choice, he can make new friends, he’s talked with his stepdad about visiting him at lunch time and it will be better than the other school because he will get bullied there.  I’m the primary carer 60/40 and we share school drop offs and pick ups.  I live 20 minutes from the current school and their mother lives 20 minutes in the other direction. I want to choose a school that has the least disruption on the children but works for both parents with drop offs and pick ups.   the move would put the children another 15 minutes further from me and we would have to change my 7 year olds school to be able to drop off both children at school in a morning.

    The feeder high school gets the better performance results

    Their mother hasn’t discussed future plans with me and now I have an unhappy and worried boy as I couldn’t confirm that that was going to be his next school.

    Things are amicable between us , but I’m concerned and apprehensive  about this discussion as in the past when I didn’t agree to the share of care she wanted she didn’t bring the boys back as normal, she told me this was the new routine and I had to deal with it.

    A letter suggesting potential court action was the only way to resolve that matter.

    Experience or advise welcome!



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    Hi Careerchange41

    Thank you for posting on our forum.  Don’t forget that as the primary carer, you can access our single parent helpline.   They hopefully will be able to help you explore your options.  They are extremely busy, so please expect to wait up to 20 minutes for your call to be answered.  The call number is freephone.  Here is the link and I hope that helps, Justine.

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