Making Christmas Arrangements

[Parklife]

So how is negotiating with our ex’s etc going everyone?

[H]

Absolute hell. We agreed our arrangements for each occasion in mediation now my ex has changed his mind and thinks he can dictate and tell me what I’m doing and when and this time I’m not backing down I’ve been walked over enough. He’s threatened me with court again this is the 12th threat so now I’m at the point I just said go on then do it as yet no evidence that he has and please before someone tells me it’s not about what I want believe me I have asked my kids and there my only focus.

[SCS]

Tried to have this conversation with my wife over the weekend as work sent the wish list round so I needed to know what leave to ask for. She hasn’t spoken to me in months since she abandoned myself and our son, moving into a flat with her boyfriend that doesn’t allow kids and seeing our son less and less frequently, managing a grand total of 2 hours during September.  I did eventually get a response but just to say that our son would still be living with me as she won’t be in a position to move any time soon.

Really not looking forward to the many firsts without the woman I love over the next few months – it will be my wife’s birthday and our 10th Wedding Anniversary later in October then half term, November it will be our sons Birthday and then into Christmas and New Years celebrations I doubt I will be feeling particularly festive for.

[zebra1983]

My little boy is only 4 weeks old. My ex and I split during pregnancy (he wanted me to have a termination, but then said he’d support my decision, I had 5 months of empty promises and let downs so had to leave in the end). I have no idea what we’re going to do at Christmas. He wants to be involved in my son’s life, and we’re being very amicable, but I’m obviously not missing my son’s first Christmas, so we may end up spending an awkward Christmas day together!

[Blondefixingmewings]

I am honestly dreading this chat and keep putting it off! The thought of not spending Christmas without my 2 young girls makes me so upset! How does everyone manage this–alternate the Xmas days, share half of the day? X

[H]

I am sharing Xmas day and boxing day. But know what you mean occasions are so hard being a single parent.

[Blondefixingmewings]

I have 1 hour and 20 minutes distance between me and ex, does anyone have a distance and how do they manage this please?

[H]

My ex moved 35 minutes away back in the summer we were together for 15 years and for all of those 15 years we shared the day with both our families this year he has invited all his gf family round there house so will be taking the boys back to his house and he has the morning from 8-3 & is moaning that some of his time will be taken up with travelling but the way I see it is he chose to move and all his immediate family live in the same town as I do so if the travelling is such an issue he has an alternative although personally I see 35 mins as not that far a journey considering I go and see my nan and grandad every Xmas morning and they live the same distance on foot away as I don’t drive  as what he will be driving but if he wants his children to go to his house then surely you just drive it.

[Leggy86lulu]

Iv been split up with my ex now for 7 years and we have a plan set out that works with our 2 children (9 and7). We alternate each year, one year I have them Christmas Eve and half of Christmas Day usually till about 1 o’clock then the next year I have them Christmas Day from 1 till Boxing Day. This gives us both time to celebrate with our family’s. It was hard the first year when I didn’t get to do Christmas Eve with them but honestly now it’s nice to know that there’s a plan that works and each year I get some relaxing me time (or meet up with friends time). My advice would be to trust that each parent is trying to do their best and not argue about the little details (both of us have been late on occasion due to weather conditions or family issues)

[DanLC89]

I am yet to bring up the Christmas arrangements. I’m dreading it to be honest, as this is the first Christmas apart.

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