2 April 2018 at 6:47 am #9468
Hello everyone. I’ve been separated nearly four years now. I have a home, support and work and have just stared dating. Ever since the seperation though I suffer from low mood. After a year and a half it became manageable but since Christmas it is low again. I’m seeing a therapist and a homeopath (although I’ve not been given the right remedy yet) and I try to practice mindfulness. Does anyone have any stories where long term low mood has passed or advice on other self help methods which have been effective. Thank you all for listening.2 April 2018 at 7:42 am #9470
Hey puddleduck, majority of the time I’m ok but everyone has times when they feel low in mood, raising the kids single handed is hard work and can feel like Groundhog Day if you don’t make really big effort to change it. I’m glad you have work in there for a change of scenery. The key for me to staying mentally strong is planning, knowing what’s going to happen when (meals, holidays, functions etc), if I don’t plan stuff in the diary then I don’t have anything to look forward to and feel like I’m drifting aimlessly. I don’t like that at all. Another thing I would just warn you to be conscious of is dating and having low mood, only for the reason that potentially the people you will meet may temporarily make you feel better, it’s exciting, it’s company and an escape from current life. I often think about emotional dependence, where one person relies upon another for their happiness, it’s a very vulnerable position to put yourself in unless you’re happy and have contentment with yourself from the start. Then you’re more able to take the knocks as there’ll inevitably be xx2 April 2018 at 10:24 am #9474
DMP is right about dating while you’re not yourself – they don’t know the real you, who will come back one day (so who are they dating?), and in the meantime there are people out there who can take advantage of you because you are at a low ebb.
And, it’s not just a personal view, you can check for yourself, homeopathy is utter rubbish. It’s up there with crystals and dream weaving. See here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eN6U6cpGzss. Same applies to dating: beware fakery because you’re feeling low – your own and the fakery of others.
If you want to improve your state of mind, get involved in projects that help others. That’s the sure fire way to feel better about yourself.
All the best.2 April 2018 at 4:28 pm #9480
lol empty, your reference to homeopathy is not everyone’s opinion! Next you’ll be telling us santa and the fairies aren’t real 😂 Hope you’re doing ok
Im not saying don’t date, I’m just saying protect your mental wellbeing as it’s precious and don’t rely upon others for your happiness xx2 April 2018 at 6:06 pm #9481
And DMP is also saying don’t trust your happiness down to a pint of water with a single molecule of lemongrass in it 😉
I feel sure that’s what she means…2 April 2018 at 6:36 pm #9482
Lol 😂 Empty, you’re too sceptical2 April 2018 at 7:12 pm #9484
Puddleduck, I do wonder whether it could be something so simple as your vitamin d levels? If you don’t take supplements through the winter period might just be worth chatting with your GP and excluding some really basic causes of low mood2 April 2018 at 7:41 pm #9485
Vitamin D? What sort of voodoo talk is this?
I don’t have time for this, I have an appointment on the astral plain in half an hour and I haven’t even opened the bottle of wine yet…