Love letter to all the single parents! 💙
18 August 2021 at 3:08 am #57621
So we’re in the final stretch of the summer hols,
We didn’t make it to the Seychelles, but we’ve made it this far & this is good enough!!
Of course… Being their holidays, the kids convinced me to let them watch a film & fall asleep in my bed…. So now I can’t sleep… Two snorting little snorers, kicking, farting, pulling the covers off … Somehow these darlings take up the whole bed & I’m squished like pancake in a car crusher… somehow it’s worth it, knowing they are safe & content. Gets me thinking… all we single parents give with a smile… we all deserve a random love letter once in a while!
So what else to do in this twilight hour state! I though I’d send some love to you all. (Strictly platonic!! I don’t have the time, energy or F’s left to give for anything else!!)
But … Massive love to you all through the sleepless nights, endless housework, cooking, washing answering a million often repeated questions a minute. The balancing act! The chaos. The calm. The missing them when they are gone, but also feeling half nuts when they’re under our feet. Love to you in the egg on the floor moments.
Love to you all in the moments you don’t have 5 mins peace, at the breaking points, plowing through exhaustion & broken toys, wasted food & loosing the keys.
Love to you all in the break through moments of your kids doing something amazing, the good days & ambitions for tomorrow. The dread, fears, pride & love for our kids nobody but us really understand.
Love to you all through the sh#t & the sunshine.
We’re are all amazing for just surviving this.
One day … In maybe 10 years or more… We might get some sleep!
Until then much love for existing & sharing the experience 🥰19 August 2021 at 9:02 am #57701
Thank you for your love letter! This was a much needed tonic. I’ve been awake since 4am, on the floor in my bedroom as the bed is occupied by my 2 youngest (my teenage son will tolerate the odd cuddle but wouldn’t be seen dead sleeping in my bed). My partner is sleeping downstairs. I am steeling myself for The Conversation with him today about us separating and him leaving the home. I’m posting an essay(!) about it separately but just wanted to say thank you for your lovely message and for confirming that you can come through the other side and still retain a sense of humour and some brain cells!
Thank you! X19 August 2021 at 10:11 am #57705
Love this. You’ve nailed it. This describes my life so well!!! Thanks19 August 2021 at 12:50 pm #57714
Hope all goes well. It’s difficult. Thinking about you.23 August 2021 at 6:38 pm #57947
You are most welcome
aha! Yess… i’ve ended up on the floor myself! & ending up in the kids bed too while they sleep in mine! easy to laugh it off for the little ones, but glad to hear the teenagers grow out of it, although i can imagine i’d likely miss them being small when they get big! We can get through it !! & still come out smiling / relatively functioning 🙂 Sorry to hear about your relationship & hope the talk went alright as can be, never an easy thing, but it’s a new beginning as much as an ending xx23 August 2021 at 6:39 pm #57948
most welcome <3
glad to know i’m not alone in feeling like this 🙂 thank you for your lovely comment 🙂25 August 2021 at 5:33 pm #58144
Brilliant post ! Did you really write that whilst half asleep? I’m not sure i could write my own name during those tough times. Well done and thank you! I actually feel a little better having read it . Cheers again 🙂26 August 2021 at 8:35 am #58165
fantastic sums up my life apart from my three don’t share the bed 👍
summer holidays are better this year as their mum commited to a 50:50 arrangement and moving forward 1 in 2 weekends for the two youngest ,
but yes endless work , dad’s taxi ( my eldest stays with me all the time ) washing cooking cleaning maintenance garden stuff , shopping26 August 2021 at 7:46 pm #58211
cheers Si7160 🙂 glad you like it & great to hear they grow out of the bed sharing! haha
congrats this summer is better for you & agreeing the 50:50 for your youngest 🙂
oh the endless slog, it’s nice to share with folk who get it 🙂 at least in the garden the plants don’t backchat 🙂
27 August 2021 at 9:13 pm #58290
- This reply was modified 3 weeks, 6 days ago by JBLA.
Thank-you for your kind words mstime, sorry i didn’t mean to not thank you!! – kids were jumping on me & just going through notifications now 🙂
– so much for the being awake! hahaha i guess we’re human after all. Really glad it made you feel a little better & Cheers for the lovely comment xx