12 October 2018 at 4:09 am #16784
Myself and my husband have decided to split after the most horrendous 8weeks … 8 weeks ago I started my fall into depression. I suddenly felt so alone all I seemed to do was cook clean work and look after my child I’d nothing for me mean while my husband was going out every night only coming home for a shower and to change after long hours at work . I had no real time for myself I hardly saw what few friends I have and the friends I did see were whilst with my child. My family aren’t very supportive and I find it extremely difficult to say how I feel or to ask for help. Some days if it weren’t for having my child I don’t think I would of got out the bed. I told my husband if he wasnt prepared to help and support me around the house then I couldn’t go on long this and then my world came crashing down and he suggested we should split because he won’t be changing … I know really it’s the right thing to do I don’t want to be the parents my child remembers having blazing rows all the time I don’t want to end up hating him I just now feel so lost I know longer no what I want were I’m heading and I have no idea how to get myself better. Apologies for going on …12 October 2018 at 7:53 am #16786
I can relate to waking up each day and having that feeling of Groundhog Day, every day just the same. It’s hard to see the light. We often under estimate how exhausting emotional stress is, and it sounds like some spontaneous fun and a change of scenery would do you the world of good. Feeling exactly like that prompted me to think about the person I was prior to kids, what I enjoyed, and then I took the kids on a journey into my past. We’ve had some great fun trying new things together. What age is your child?
It sounds from what you’ve written that your husband has already started to adjust to an alternative life from the partnership you once enjoyed. I think sometimes (certainly for me) I knew the relationship was over but it was just acknowledging that meant that I was required to then do something about it, so I chose not to acknowledge it for a fair while longer. Again for me, I knew the end was inevitable. You’re not broken, this is just part of your journey and one you don’t need to do alone. Many have walked this path before you, and many will follow. What area of the UK are you?12 October 2018 at 8:00 pm #16807
That sounds like a great idea he’s only 15months but I guess having thought about it there’s lots we could do I try to make sure we go somewhere most days anyway even if it’s just a walk I take him to playgroups 3 times a week and he love swimming plenty to keep us busy during today I’ve arranged an evening out with some girl friends which I’m looking forward to.
My husband as agreed that he will share childcare so I’m still able to work and he’s said he will support me with bills and anything we need. hopefully he will stick to it. I think once he’s gone and his things are gone I’ll feel ill be able to start to move forward in some way.
I live in Nottingham thankyou for your kind words there encouraging.12 October 2018 at 9:08 pm #16808
Ah your baby is still very young. I agree with keeping things amicable with the ex if possible and I also agree that once he moved out you’ll be able to look around the house and try to make it a place where you feel comfortable again, for you and your son.
I’m excited for you breaking free with your friends for the evening 😁 Have a lovely time!