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    DanielaSantos123
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    <span style=”font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%; background-color: #fdfdfd;”>I was seeing him when he was still in a relationship (yes I know it was wrong, but don’t need any judgement.) He has since then spilt from his partner but has a daughter from that relationship. </span><br style=”box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;” /><br style=”box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;” /><span style=”font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%; background-color: #fdfdfd;”>When I told him I was pregnant he told me I had to have the baby (I was planning on another abortion until I found out I was five months). But couldn’t be involved straight away as the split from his partner had affected his daughter and he needed to put her first. This was in April.</span><br style=”box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;” /><br style=”box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;” /><span style=”font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%; background-color: #fdfdfd;”>He carried on seeing me throughout my pregnancy but never asked anything about it. I told him about scans and how it was going etc. </span><br style=”box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;” /><br style=”box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;” /><span style=”font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%; background-color: #fdfdfd;”>I gave birth to my beautiful boy nearly three weeks ago, which I told him when I gave birth. I asked if he wanted to see baby and the response I got was that I should rest since I had a c-section and he’d get to see him when he does. Since then he’s spoken to me normally and occasionally asks how baby is doing but it doesn’t move past that.</span><br style=”box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;” /><br style=”box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;” /><span style=”font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%; background-color: #fdfdfd;”>I also asked about a middle name and what surname to put down on the birth certificate and he said that it was up to me and I should choose. He didn’t seem too keen to give him his surname. </span><br style=”box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;” /><br style=”box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;” /><span style=”font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%; background-color: #fdfdfd;”>Am I wrong to question if he wants to be involved again? I feel like he’s not very interested. Yet wants to see me for sex etc? I’m really confused about what to do in regards to this😞</span>

     

    Im so worried about being a single parent and how others will see me. I know it isn’t a priority at the moment, but I’m so scared of being lonely and not being able to find someone who will be able to love me or my son. I feel horrible.

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    Empty
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    Sorry, your post is too difficult to read.

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    son70
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    Sounds like you need support – speak to a family member or friend if you can, seek support from others.  He’s not there for you, he’s already said he’s putting his other family first, you look after you, you can do it.

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    1504Silvia
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    little tip: For my experience..Give him only your surname. It will be easier for all the papers you will do for passport, etc. And no worries, sooner or later you will find someone who deserve you and your sun. Not all men are the same luckily

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