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    Jamiejay85
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    Hi, to cut the long story short I found my wife with another man on Thursday. She’s denied anything was going on but it was clear that if it hadn’t it was going to. I have come to terms (I think) with her having an affair but it’s the cold messages that we now send to each other that are hurtful. I have our daughter with me as she requested we moved out and although she would like to see her I have had to isolate us at my mums house as my mum is vulnerable to the virus and my wife clearly wasn’t social distancing. The messages have become so formal when they use to be full of love and excitement. I have approached her to discuss child maintenance but she’s said she won’t be doing anything until she gets advice. I wasn’t asking for money for me but for our daughter and she’s refused to pay. I fear she is getting so much evidence against me which isn’t going to be true that it will hurt me so deep. I spoke to her yesterday and asked what happened in our relationship and she said I was jealous, untrustworthy and violent. I never once hit my wife or threatened her. People have said that if I was violent towards her then there would’ve been bruises and she would’ve said something not be the wife who she was. I never once raised a hand to her. This is what I am struggling with. We met 11 years ago and fell deeply in love but clearly I felt differently lately. I am being strong for our daughter as she is everything to me and especially when her mum asked me to take her with me that really hurt. If anyone wants to talk then please message me. Thank you

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    Jsmoove
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    So sorry to hear mate,a lot of relationships break down over time,people change,especially when children are involved,I think relationships loose excitement and usually one partner gets bored and think the grass is greener on the other side,I think she is bitter towards you as you caught her in the act of cheating and the only way to make herself feel better is to accuse you of stuff,don’t react to her messages it’s all mind games,you are gona have up and down days but that’s normal,stay strong for your child,as in child maintenance I would seek legal advice

    #38993 Report

    Jamiejay85
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    Hey man, thanks for your message. Means  a lot that you’re taken time to read what I wrote. I’m feeling better after last nights 11 hour sleep but know she’s going to try and hit me with some awful things. I’m sending her pictures of our daughter on a daily basis as that’s what was requested a few days ago but I won’t contact her with anything else until I have some information on how to proceed. I contacted child maintenance and they will start the process of claiming the money straight from her wages once the child benefits are going into my account. Thanks again for the message.

    #38996 Report

    Jsmoove
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    Be the best dad you can be and everything will fall into place mate,I get a lot of abusive texts still and get accused of so-called stuff and I just laugh at it now,it gets harder before it gets easier but you will come out stronger

    #38997 Report

    Jamiejay85
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    Our daughter is always and will always be my number one concern so I’ll be the best dad I can possibly be. Thanks buddy. Means a lot.

    #39225 Report

    Family Time
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    Hello guys , well life isn’t quite the fairy tail we grow up believing is it , I still read all the love story books to my little two girls with a heavy heart that in reality life is not like this or if it is Iam yet to see a true love story in progress . My husband left for the second time in our 8 year marriage 14 weeks ago first time he spent 10 weeks with someone else and came back when he had had enough or should I say when she had , had her fill sorry the pun not intended , he’s gone again and very busy with the women all over social media it’s soul destroying he’s made no attempt to see our girls who are 5 and 6 not paid a penny despite CSA setting up an arrangement IV complained every week when no money has appeared but as you can imagine lockdown has sent their phone lines crazy , most days I find hard with all this time to think Iam lockdown on my own with them he is following no guidelines and surrounded by female company I congratulate myself at night when IV made it through another day without crying inside , we will all get there in time here if you want to talk .

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    Jsmoove
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    Hi family time,I know wat u mean,I watch a lot of romantic comedy movies that always end up in happy endings but life ain’t like that,don’t worry so much on your ex,he will regret it one day,any normal person would fight to see there kids,they are only young once,it’s guys like him who give single dads a bad name,in time your heart will heal and u will be far better for it,history will repeat itself if he keeps coming back,be strong you got this ,it will get better

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