I split up from my ex husband 3 years ago. Over the last 2 years our children (age 7 and 5) see him every other Sunday for 3-5 hours. This is only because I drive them to his house (45min – 1 hour drive) because otherwise he wouldn’t come to see them (either by train, which is an easy journey, or by car. He drives but doesn’t have a car – although he could easily buy one with all the money from our divorce!). He makes no contact in between visits. He doesn’t even normally plan or arrange the visit, but I will message him a day or two in advance just checking if he would like me to bring the children to see him / if he’s expecting them.
He lives with his mum, works full time but doesn’t pay any maintenance (and never has) or contribute in any way. If I didn’t drive them to see him, he wouldn’t make the effort to see them.
So….Should I stop making the effort and accept that our children might not see their father for weeks/months/ever?!!
I ask the children if they want to see him, and they say yes but they don’t ever ask for more or want to stay longer.