Hi all. I am new to the group, and am looking for a bit of advice. My ex and I split up nearly 5 years ago. We have two girls who live with her. Lately the eldest has decided she does not want to see me, for so e or other reason. If there is one I’m not being told what it is. The youngest is totally the opposite, wants to spend as much time with me as possible. While driving her home this evening, she got pretty upset and blatantly stated that she doesn’t want to live with mom anymore, but come live with me. As you can imagine, this ripped at my heart strings. I didn’t know what to say to her. She wouldn’t even get out the car when I got her home. We have not had any legal custody agreements drawn up. But that’s not my main concern. What is my issues is the mental health of both my daughters. Is the eldest playing up for the same reason. I don’t have a clue.
Don’t let yourself worry too much about your eldest, she is going through some interesting times of her own due to her age, I don’t think it’s an issue with you.
It’s lovely that your little one didn’t want to leave you, she obviously loves you. In a lot of ways young kids live in the moment, it’s far more upsetting for you to say goodbye after your time together, it’s just that she doesn’t yet know how to express it properly.