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    Beckyjo
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    I know that lots of single parent bloggers are passionate about the need to ensure that a lone parent looks after their own health and wellbeing. I, alas, really struggle to put myself anywhere but… 10th… on any list of priorities. The story from my blog illustrates. Does anyone have any tips on this??

     

     

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    CarolWales
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    Nice blog! Well you manage to keep a blog, that’s a start isn’t it? I think self care is a habit, just like everything else. Find something easy to start with and then go from there. Bit by bit until it’s something you just do. Your kids are the most important thing, right? Well, it’s mega important for them to see that you look after yourself and live a happy and fulfilled life as far as possible… so there is your reason to make it a priority!

    Pretending like I have all the answers here, but something has clicked for me recently and I’ve become a bit better and I feel so much better for it, I’m even having some fun again!

    #36254 Report

    Beckyjo
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    Thanks Carol. That does make sense. I do try, with flexible hobbies such as reading and running.

    I think it’s when the wheels come off that it can feel unmanageable. Possibly this is true for all parents, however as a single parent I sometimes feel that life is such a stretch that the slightest change can cause a crisis.

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    Lou1979
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    Hi Beckyjo

    thankyou for this, this is so true. Since leaving my ex-husband 2.5 years ago, I have put my son (no question), house and everything else ahead of me. But last week, I re-joined the gym and I am now about to start to self care to me. I am in a lot better place, financially and mentally is almost there, so the self care will help me achieve this.

    So thankyou for sharing the Blog, it defiantly rings true for me.

    lou xx

     

    #36266 Report

    Beckyjo
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    Thanks Lou – good to hear I’m not on my own!!!

    Love Carol’s idea too, that we need to role model to our kids how important it is to look after ourselves. Find that wise and inspiring.

    #36290 Report

    CarolWales
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    Yes, I completely agree, it’s a house of cards built on shaky finances and as soon as someone gets ill or there is the slightest upheaval I’m back to chaos and not or barely coping.

    Looks like we’re all making a start, well done us! I’m also really into the stuff that is flexible and will fit around everything else, the problem is that that is the first thing you let go of. If you actually sign up for (and pay for) something at a set time/on a set day, I think you’re much more likely to ring-fence it and say no I’m making this happen…

     

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    SarahW
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    Hi! You have a very nice blog! And I think the phrase “happy parents, happy kids” is so true… When I got divorced,  It was so difficult for me to pull myself together… But then I realized that my son deserves better, at least good-looking, healthy and calm mommy)</span></span>

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    Beckyjo
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    So true Sarah…just sometimes hard to juggle it all!!

    #36453 Report

    SarahW
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    yes, it is very hard sometimes, and I never judge parents who can’t deal with it. But, always ready to support!

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    Beckyjo
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    Not judging  – such an important lesson for parenting and life in general. How much nicer the world would be without the smug and opinionated!!

    Take care x

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