Lonely older single mum
3 October 2019 at 8:26 pm #31094
I’m a 46 year old mum with a 17 yr old living at home and 23 yr old living with his partner I’ve been so lonely since my divorce with no body to talk to. Since the divorce I started talking to a younger man from Algeria in his 30’s I really like him but I keep thinking why would he want me he is absolutely stunning I have put £1000’s of pounds into this relationship with visas that were turned down etc I’ve actually been out to see him 5 times we met in Tunisia but every time I’ve felt not good enough ugly useless he argues with me for not doing as he says as soon as I get there we go ATM he keeps the money I’m not allowed money in my pocket and is never thankful and wants me to be grateful for him coming to meet me he won’t have any physical contact in public which also makes me feel ugly and not good enough but continuously looking at other women checks my phone but won’t even show me his Facebook. He’s continuously taking selfies of himself saying he needs them to send to his friend he says stop asking your always jealous when I get upset he tells me off all I want is to find love and for someone to love me as much as I would them but at the minute I feel like a walking bank by someone who says they love me constantly and always phones me daily do I stand by him or carry on getting upset over a dream that can never happen I’m sorry for going on I’m after advice really if anyone has any experience with Algerian men I understand they are obviously a different religion and do things differently but I’m at a loss of where this is going and also so sad that I will end up heartbroken3 October 2019 at 9:13 pm #31097
Unfortunately this isn’t the first time I’ve heard of this, it’s extremely common. It’s a well known scam and usually they work in groups stringing along several people as a source of income. The rackets are usually organised and money from this also tends to be used for other criminal activities, sometimes much worse than fraud. Count yourself lucky that any harm has been limited to financial and emotional upset , cut your losses and stay clear. Contact the authorities here who will be able to advise further and maybe victim support.3 October 2019 at 9:14 pm #310983 October 2019 at 9:36 pm #31099
Thank you I will look into it3 October 2019 at 10:50 pm #31100
Rstep, if its too good to be true is usually is. Hes stringing you along snd pulling at your heart strings and your money is his motive. Move on from him. Block all his contacts3 October 2019 at 11:29 pm #31105
Thank you for your response I know I’ve been living in a dream world to be honest but so afraid to let him go and have no one at all to talk too but I don’t know which is worst feeling lonely of feeling useless and ugly4 October 2019 at 1:26 pm #31110
The other posters here are absolutely right I’m sorry to say and I think you need to contact the police before you do anything. Not only will you be saving yourself but that man maybe doing this to many other women as well so you’ll be saving them to.
No man or woman should make anybody feel the way this man has done, you deserve far more. I understand your loneliness, we all feel that way at times but staying with someone who is abusing you will only hurt more in the long run.
Keep posting here as over the years people have posted some great ideas for getting through being lonely, it won’t last forever, it’s a period in your life that you will one day look back to. You’ll also find many folk who understand and show you that your not alone with your feelings.
Please don’t take my words about calling the police lightly, they have come across a huge amount of people who have similary been scammed.
Mark4 October 2019 at 2:23 pm #31112
I know I just have to forget about him and move on I will listen to my gut and put it down to a very bad experience8 October 2019 at 10:07 pm #31311
I’m sure that once he’s out of your life and you haven’t got that awful negative pulling down you are getting from him, you will start to feel much brighter and perhaps join some local groups to meet new people.
All the very best to you, you deserve it.
Fran xx8 October 2019 at 11:06 pm #31314
Thank you Fran I sure do need a lucky break10 October 2019 at 4:23 pm #31408
If someone you have only recently met asks for money, photo’s or other private pieces of information, (bank accounts, ID numbers, passwords) politely decline and walk away. Talk to someone close that you can trust or come on here for advise.10 October 2019 at 7:36 pm #31412