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    Duncs
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    Hi my partner left me in July this year and I’m now a single parent with daughter.

    I have been feeling incredibly lonely and empty also having lost my confidence, having doubts about whether I’ll meet someone else etc., etc.,

    is there anyone else that feels like this and would like to chat?.

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    Missy21
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    Yes, completely understand where you’re coming from. Can’t imagine ever meeting anyone who’d want to be with me now. Friends tell me I’ll find someone when I’m ready; I’m not so sure & am already dreading the day my girls move out (at least 11 years away for my youngest!)

    The loneliness is horrible. x

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    gilo1973
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    Ditto. Kids were told today so really hitting home. I dont know whether to cry or be happy that my 17 yr old son was searching on rightmove and zoopla to find a property that I can afford and he still get to college. His mum (the one who ended it) seems to coping well which hurts as we have been together 24 years. I want her to be happy but I cant help think why arent you feeling the way I do. I feel like I have let my family down and I dont know how I will be happy again. I know they say time is a healer and its only been 2 weeks since she told me she wants a divorce but it feels significantly longer.

    Not looking forward to talking to the rest of family tomorrow now kids know

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    Missy21
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    Hope the family talk went ok gilo

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    Duncs
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    Thank you missy for your kind words, I can only hope that time will heal and that I will get over this lonely stage.

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    richard_s
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    I think the first months are the hardest of all, the loneliness seems unbearable. I am sure you will become stronger and more confident in time, not least because you have successfully come through this really hard period, whilst being a parent at the same time. From my experience of it, it takes some time to come to terms, psychologically, with a whole new identity (ie. single, single parent), that has been thrust upon you. I’ve also had to learn to reach out and ask others for help and support when I’ve needed it and to change my thinking so that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a necessary and positive thing.

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    Duncs
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    Thank you for your kind words Richard, I am trying to reach out for help although it’s not always easy. Find being on my own at the moment very alienating tbh.

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    Flowertree
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    Also single mum in Surrey! Feel your pain.

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    Thundercat
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    Hi I am new on this site but have been a single parent for almost six years now. My son is 8 and I find it difficult to keep up the momentum to take him out places when you know it will be full of families. I do have friends and we will go out places in the holidays but weekends are the worst. I bought a dog last year so we walk quite a lot and the dog is company for me in the evenings when my son goes to bed.

     

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    Duncs
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    My daughter wants a dog/puppy but I’ve been putting it off Thundercat because I know I’ll have to look after it and with working every day I don’t think it’s fair on the dog.

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    Jayj
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    Your get through this

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    Duncs
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    Thank you Jayj.

    #30617 Report

    Hi, I’m a single dad from Surrey and its been 7 years since my four’s mum left, she has no contact with them so it’s all on me. I have to say I still struggle with that loneliness feeling a lot of the time. But just keep reminding myself I have my kids and that is the main thing.

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    Madsy
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    • Hi, I get where you are coming from entirely. My partner of 23 yrs left me & the kids on Boxing Day. At first I was really strong, independent, I even reroofed the shed on my own but as the months have worn on, I feel more & more isolated from the world. I dread the texts from my ex, his demands & threats. I’ve become a bit of an emotional punch bag for him because he can’t take it out on his new girlfriend. When I look in the mirror, I just see myself ageing and looking exhausted. I’ve been left with the debts and I don’t want to burden anyone with my pain, so just smile through everything but my smile is waning and I am becoming more stern. I have changed and I don’t feel like I can ever trust anyone again after years of gas lighting. I cling to the hope that my pain will subside, I’ll get out of this mess and actually maybe laugh again. I have always been a fairly strong person but this has broken me. It can’t get any worse though. The only way is up now!
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    John0756
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    I can so empahise with you. It is 3 months since my wife left home, after 23 years. It’s devastating but I have some lovely friends who understand when I burst into tears at random times. We share  having the kids but drop off / pick up times are hard.

    • This reply was modified 1 year ago by John0756. Reason: typo
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