Lonely in Surrey, anyone else?

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    Duncs
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    Hi my partner left me in July this year and I’m now a single parent with daughter.

    I have been feeling incredibly lonely and empty also having lost my confidence, having doubts about whether I’ll meet someone else etc., etc.,

    is there anyone else that feels like this and would like to chat?.

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    Missy21
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    Yes, completely understand where you’re coming from. Can’t imagine ever meeting anyone who’d want to be with me now. Friends tell me I’ll find someone when I’m ready; I’m not so sure & am already dreading the day my girls move out (at least 11 years away for my youngest!)

    The loneliness is horrible. x

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    gilo1973
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    Ditto. Kids were told today so really hitting home. I dont know whether to cry or be happy that my 17 yr old son was searching on rightmove and zoopla to find a property that I can afford and he still get to college. His mum (the one who ended it) seems to coping well which hurts as we have been together 24 years. I want her to be happy but I cant help think why arent you feeling the way I do. I feel like I have let my family down and I dont know how I will be happy again. I know they say time is a healer and its only been 2 weeks since she told me she wants a divorce but it feels significantly longer.

    Not looking forward to talking to the rest of family tomorrow now kids know

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    Missy21
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    Hope the family talk went ok gilo

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    Duncs
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    Thank you missy for your kind words, I can only hope that time will heal and that I will get over this lonely stage.

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    richard_s
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    I think the first months are the hardest of all, the loneliness seems unbearable. I am sure you will become stronger and more confident in time, not least because you have successfully come through this really hard period, whilst being a parent at the same time. From my experience of it, it takes some time to come to terms, psychologically, with a whole new identity (ie. single, single parent), that has been thrust upon you. I’ve also had to learn to reach out and ask others for help and support when I’ve needed it and to change my thinking so that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a necessary and positive thing.

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    Duncs
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    Thank you for your kind words Richard, I am trying to reach out for help although it’s not always easy. Find being on my own at the moment very alienating tbh.

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