23 February 2020 at 6:44 pm #37016
I at times feel lonely, see parents out together and wonder how will I ever meet someone.23 February 2020 at 6:53 pm #37017
I am really struggling with loneliness at the moment. Between my kids annihilating me when they need to lash out and my ex re-writing history and explaining what an appalling human being I am, I am so low that I can’t reach out to my family. I feel like I am weak and they see that…
Sorry, I am attempting on-line dating at the moment but every time my ex or my teenager have a go it sets me back and makes me feel like a fraud. I am good at my job and it keeps me going but how do you know who is truly you and who is a front to cover the l-word?23 February 2020 at 7:09 pm #37019
I know I haven’t gone on it as can’t bring myself to more disappointment. I get the same with my ex constantly telling me how awful I am. I just find I get to six when my daughter goes to bed and I lie in bed too as exhausted and I’m done for the day. I would love company but think it’s really hard23 February 2020 at 10:18 pm #37027
It may be worth considering whether you are feeling down or depressed. I’m ok now that I feel more settled and confident in my single parent lifestyle, but I now realise that in the early days of single parenthood I was actually depressed and that perhaps a visit to the doctor may have helped me.
If not depression (and obviously I don’t know your background or how long you’ve been feeling this way, or what you’ve tried to make things better), reaching out to people can sometimes be the best thing, even though it’s really hard. Finding people you trust to confide in or just saying ‘hey, I’m feeling a bit crap/fancy a day out/dinner in/can we hang out?’ can be so helpful. My friend and I started doing dinner once a week and it really helped me.
Quite honestly, online dating is a bastard and unlikely to make anyone feel better haha.24 February 2020 at 7:54 am #37033
Don’t take any notice of your ex at all. He’s lashing out because he sees you coping apparently effortlessly and it’s making him realise that you really don’t need him.
Can you set aside a “treat” night once a week, and make a particular effort to do something for yourself even if it’s only a pedicure or favourite food. Be kind to yourself and don’t expect too much too soon.24 February 2020 at 1:41 pm #37047
I have always been one to go to bed quite early and think it’s now I’m just tired by a certain time . I try and have an evening with friends every few weeks. It’s my first time I moved out alone with my child . I try and get friends round as can’t do anything of course as child in bed and so on and I go to playgroups classes and see same baby friend every week . And I work two days a week. Suppose need to try meet people in similar situation , find afternoons particularly quiet as not much on24 February 2020 at 1:53 pm #37048
I understand exactly how you’re feeling, I used to feel the exact same way, especially when my daughter was very young. I always found afternoons difficult as none of my friends had children and would all be at work, and it just seems to be a quiet part of the day. Working and seeing friends definitely helps. I don’t know if it would be for you but I found studying a great way to use my time and to meet people, even if only virtually. I’m on my fourth year with the Open University and I’m loving it (although it’s not easy it’s totally rewarding).
I wouldn’t exactly say I don’t get lonely now, but I do feel grateful (despite it feeling totally crap at the time) that that time allowed me to learn how to be happy in my own company, because I am now and to be honest, I relish it haha. I know that isn’t very helpful right now, but you won’t always feel this way.
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