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    GingerbreadHelen
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    To launch our Christmas campaign week, we’d love to hear your single parent tips and stories.  What works for you? What are your hopes and your worries? Or maybe you have a happy single parent family memory to share.

    Let’s have a good pre-Christmas chat here on the forum! If you take part, we’d like to share some of your comments on social media. But don’t worry, we’ll remove anything personal or detailed so you can’t be identified. .

    Here’s info about the campaign for you to share with friends and family if you wish:  Give Single Parent Families a happy Christmas (thebiggive.org.uk)

     

     

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    sirtobi
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    Hello everyone,

    as many freelancers are, we have been hit hard by covid and 2021 is probably the worst year we ever had. So money is extremely tight this year as everything is getting dearer by the day, I became more and more worried about Christmas looming. I am not even sure we will be able to afford a tree this year, not to speak about presents and an opulent Christmas meal. So I had a sit down with our son, and we talked. He already knew what was coming as he knew, how I was struggling on a day-to-day basis and how difficult it had been to procure his school stuff this year, and no running shoes, but cheap trainers for athletics and only the most basic kit. So when I told him, how things are looking, it didn’t come as a surprise to him. Thanks to food tech in school, he is keen on cocking, and we came up with a much cheaper solution for our Christmas meal this year than usual, which we should be able to afford. For his present, he said, “I had much more than I wished for over the last years, and there isn’t anything I really need or want to have.” In the end we compromised on a different version of his favourite computer game, Minecraft, the  bedrock edition, for which he offered to pay 50% from his pocket money, which I gracefully accepted. He needs it as his friends can’t access our java version to play online. He wasn’t at all bothered, and I could feel his enthusiasm as we were planning our Christmas days. It will be scaled down a lot, but I am sure he will enjoy it nonetheless. And I think I will as well. Happy Christmas

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    Andrew uk
    Participant

    There are lots of things to do that are free/inexpensive. Being with your child/ren is the most important thing.

    It doesn’t matter about the money etc. Why not use thus as an opportunity to start a less-consumer/materialistic Christmas? So maybe less presents? Or experiences instead of presents?

    I’m not seeing my two children this Christmas for the first, and hopefully last, time so I appreciate how precious the moments are.

    On a practical note, last year I phoned b and q for a tree but they had sold out. They told me about another local branch so i went there and they were selling them for a pound! It was Christmas Eve as I remember so if you are happy to wait until then…

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    Andrew uk
    Participant

    Local light switch-ons? Local carol- services in church – all free. What is school doing? You could donate tins etc to food-bank. If you want something completely different (I’ve never done it but I’ve heard of people who have saying it’s wonderful and it’s become an annual family ritual) why not volunteer at a Salvation Army/homeless shelter? Sone churches/local councils organise Christmas lunch for the homeless etc.

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    Lillie0x
    Participant

    I can’t make a thread

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    GingerbreadHelen
    Keymaster

    Hi @LillieOx, I’ve sent you a private message. best wishes.

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    Yaz
    Participant

    Before my daughter arrived I volunteered for crisis and worked on Christmas and days leading up to it.

    I met lots of people including the guests who all had stories to tell.

    I didn’t want to go home ! It was a great atmosphere and a live band came to cheer us up .

    I served meals and cleaned tables and spoke all day to lonely homeless  people .

    The guests were able to update their cv, see a Dr or a dentist and got three hot meals . They could also have a shower and hand in their dirty clothes to be washed it mended .

    It made me look at my life differently. There were lots of young people living rough .they could have been anyone’s child .

    Now I’m a mum I pamper my child at Christmas. It’s the only time of the year she’s spoilt .

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    Andrew uk
    Participant

    Crisis is a good idea. I’ve never done it but I imagine they would welcome older children too.

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    Andrew uk
    Participant

    Google “Christmas volunteering” and there are too many opportunities to mention. Or contact your local council and/or church and/or Salvation Army.

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    sirtobi
    Participant

    Hello everyone,

    volunteering during Christmas and New Year’s Eve is what I did many years. But it only works without children. PTSD, psychosis, drug abuse and alcoholism is very common around homelessness. All very good reasons why the minimum age for volunteers in our local food bank and our local homeless shelter and soup kitchen is 18 years old, which in my opinion is still too low, after witnessing the devastation this can cause, and there are no children allowed. This became such a problem at the food bank, where it is impossible to keep children out, that we even moved premises, to guarantee a safe space for children. Our local women rescue centre had their own collection service because it was too unsafe for the women and children to pick up their food.

     

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    Andrew uk
    Participant

    Local lights? Lots of houses have them up…

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