I left my husband three months ago with my two children, due to his aggression escalating and it becoming unsafe for us to live with him anymore. Was with him for 7 years and we lived together for 5. Went through so much in those five years and even though I have left I still get days where I cry, because I can’t understand why the person I married treated me so badly and hurt at how he has just completely ignored his children and doesn’t even ask if there is anything that they need.
Well, that’s the way the cookie crumbles for some of us, I’m afraid. I don’t recognise the mother of my children. It’s just a shame we have children, because that can make things ugly. We split up mid-Nov last year and I spent until November 4th not eating or sleeping and drinking far too much. I am over that now, and have come to terms with it all. The point is, it all takes time to even start healing. And maybe that will never be complete, but it gets better eventually. Of course, in time, you will need help getting support from him, and there are organisations to assist with that. However you feel about the situation, he’ll always be their father and everyone, including the children and him have to come to terms with that.