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    justhaitch
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    My heart is racing. We’ve told our children that we are parting. And I’m sooo scared of the future now.

    we still live together until I can move out and it’s going to be hard. It’s a two bedroom house with two kids.

    im sad. Happy. Scared. Guilty. Hurt. All at the same time.

     

    19 years! Wow!

    I think I just need a shoulder right now but have no family or friends to rely on.

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    Hope19
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    So sorry for you – I remember that day well.  It’s heartbreaking but I’ve been amazed at how resilient kids can be – also amazed at what us parents can cope with! Try to look after yourself and find distractions.  I watched endless episodes of Would I Lie to You as it nearly always made me laugh and I could forget everything for 30 minutes! Hope things improve for you soon : )

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    Welshdad
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    It’s going to be a rollercoaster but don’t be scared and don’t feel guilty. Build up a support network around you…take things one step at a time and establish a new home and get a good routine visitation sorted from the start.  Once you have the basics yiu will have a strong foundation to build on.  You are going to be ok.

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    justhaitch
    Participant

    Thank you. This is my worst nightmare but sadly had to be done.

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    justhaitch
    Participant

    Thank you.
    I’m a welsh dad too!

    I just need to try and find funds to get my own place ASAP. I don’t know where from though?! Going to Citizens Advice on Tuesday.

    Thanks again

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    EmJay
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    Prioritise staying in contact and building your relationship with your children and stay business like with your ex. Divorce is damaging to all involved. It takes two years to heal and some children need counselling. Don’t be so wrapped in the adult concerns you ignore what they go through. Put them and their support first. Talk to school and grandparents etc to ensure they have people other than you to talk to and face up to their questions and give reassurance as needed. You’ll be financially worse off So get good at budgeting.

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