Just split up, still living with my ex with 2 kids

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    Candy41
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    Hi, first time posting anything online. I feel like my life is over. Recently split but ex still living with me and 2 kids. I don’t know how to get over him when he’s still living with us. Feel so sad and depressed about the situation.

    #53190 Report

    Gummibear123
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    Yes,well obviously you can’t get over him if he’s in your face all the time.You haven’t posted details but seriously,you need to get rid somehow if you want to recover.No polite way to put it I’m afraid.Far too painful living with broken dreams in front of you all the time.How do you expect to manage like this?

    #53193 Report

    Candy41
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    Hi, thanks for replying back.

    My ex is due to move out end of June, he will move back with his brother who has a flat mate so the delay in moving is because the flatmate has to find a new place to live. Yes it’s so hard living together. I just feel so betrayed and hurt and I don’t know how I am going to manage bringing up 2 young kids but I know I have to be strong for them.

    #53194 Report

    koolkat
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    Candy41 please stay strong. It’s not the end of the world even though it may seem like it. It can be really painful and hard in the beginning but trust me is gets easier. Time heals most things and once he’s gone you can get on with your life with your children just stay strong for your children. If you need to chat etc just message me x

    #53255 Report

    Candy41
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    I don’t feel like it will get easier because there are constant reminders of him everywhere and of course we have to be civil for the kids. I feel like my heart has been ripped out and it’s so hard trying to keep myself together and not cry in front of the kids.

    #53259 Report

    Just me 678
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    I think it is doubly hard coping with a split if you are living with your ex and sometimes we can’t help this as sometimes situations and finances dictate , if you ever need support this is great on here I made some good friends .

     

    Stay strong mate

    #53287 Report

    Candy41
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    Thank you.  I feel we can no longer do things together with the kids anymore, it’s always going have to be 2 of everything. I booked legoland ages ago so there’s no way I can go and forget what’s happened even if it’s for the day.

    #53310 Report

    JonathanAndTwoBoys
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    Ok there may be reminders of him in many places but over time, and after he moves out, that will calm down and eventually fade. It’s ok to have memories but remember, he made the choices that led to this and you have not done anything wrong. These things take time and you MUST focus on the goal, which is a happier life with your kids away from him. Stay strong, ask for help from friends, family and in helpful, safe places like this and time will fly by to a better time before you know it.

    #53322 Report

    Candy41
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    Thanks. I am trying to keep busy as much as possible so we are not both at home in separate rooms and to distract myself so I don’t cry every time I think about the situation. We were forced to be together in the car today because I do the shopping and I don’t drive and he was being little too casual talking like nothings happened like observing building work he didn’t like. I just kept quiet for the entire journey.  What is that about??

    #53472 Report

    Nic.hat
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    Hi this is the first time I’ve ever been on here I’ve just found out my Partner of 0ver. 18 years has feelings for someone else as feels We have had a crap relationship for years too. I love him so much and I’m broken. Can’t stop crying we live in our own home with 11 year old and I can’t see a future without him. How can we both live here …. but I don’t want him to go. I cant afford to buy him out either. My life is so hard!! I need help. Your life sounds very similar xxx

    #53473 Report

    Candy41
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    Hi Nic.hat

    I was in a relationship for 10 years and we have 2 young kids, a 18 month and a 4 year old. My 18 month old has been in lockdown half his life and now will never experience what it’s like doing things together as a family like days out, holidays etc  and that kills me because all I ever wanted was to have a family of my own.

    I don’t even know if I will be able to live here with the kids, currently trying to sort finances out etc. I feel like a wreck. I hate that he wants to leave but angry at the same time. He has been secretive for a long time and will never be honest so I don’t even know if there is actually somebody else in the picture.

    Life is hard.

    What has your partner said about the living arrangements? X

     

    #53508 Report

    Sad.Dad
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    Hello, my wife left me and our kids after 15 years of marriage and 18 years together, she said that she fell in love with another 19 years older than herself man at work(she is 38 he is 57) It’s not easy because she was the love of my life and now I have to watching her every day with other , she visits children every day (9 , 13 and 15 years old). The family has always been everything to me and she decided that she fell in love and chose him over her children.  it’s not easy but you have to live for the children.

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    #53511 Report

    Candy41
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    Hi sad dad,

    how are your children dealing with the situation? How you doing? Did it happen recently?

    #53520 Report

    Sad.Dad
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    Hi,  it happened not long ago, 2 months ago 25/02 / 2021😭 The youngest son 9 years old  to her new home for a few hours sometimes, the middle son (13) seems to even get close to her because now she spends more time with them than she used to before, but daughter (15) still says that she hate her that she destroyed the family and their childhood, I think that maybe one day it will pass and she will talk to her mother normally.

    Sorry for my English 😁

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    #53522 Report

    Candy41
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    Hi sad.Dad

    It’s hard trying to deal with a breakup and your 15 year old who is clearly so upset about the situation.

    I am worried about my kids how it will affect their childhood. I am sure your daughter will be fine just takes time.

    How did you decide where the kids would live?

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