Just so tired, sad & struggling
10 February 2020 at 8:18 pm #36589
Hi I just joined. Im a single mum of 3, I left a very abusive marriage years ago & my ex has no contact nor makes financial contribution (judge agreed for the best for our protection ). I’ve managed ok just about for ten years but recently I’m struggling. I work hard but my wages are low , my car broke and can’t be repaired,we have no car now, I don’t even know how I can get to work when I recover, I’ve just had a big operation, I’ve no money, no savings, friends stopped bothering with me years ago unless they want something, my disabled child is hard work and my teen is horrid to me half the time moaning about what we don’t have that their friends have. I have nothing, my clothes are rags and I eat as little as I can to get by. I pay the mortgage and bills but that’s the money gone except basic food. I look after my elderly disabled parent and have no other family. I work so hard just to stay afloat and I’m tired. I don’t even know why I’m posting and I can’t see a way forwards. I’m using every spare minute , often overnight doing online surveys for a few pennies extra. I know I’m not alone and others are in worse positions but I’m tired of it all. I need to better my family, work harder, earn more, do more but I’m stuck. I don’t want anyone thinking I can’t cope, I’m just struggling right now, my surgery was massive and came after months of serious illness, I need to get better faster. So anyway, I don’t suppose anyone here can help but I guess my resilience has dipped and I need a boot up the bum to get going again.10 February 2020 at 8:35 pm #36591
You and me both! having no money sucks but things will improve as the children get older and maybe even get their own jobs and help out financially. It will all happen one day. It’s great that your surgery is behind you. I find that saving a tiny amount helps, it builds and gives me hope that there is something there, even if it is 2 pound a week. It is not so much the amount but what it does for the mind. Your focus also should be on health right now which is wealth! look after you more, do things that make you happy and feel good. If we wait for others we will be waiting a long time.10 February 2020 at 9:53 pm #36599
P.S. I have looked at the funding available section on this website and there may be some options for you to apply for. Definitely check it out.11 February 2020 at 9:52 am #36617
Hi drowningnotwaving, As moonwhisper suggested, you can have a look at the funding section. You can also call Gingerbread’s free helpline, where our expert advisers can offer advice on a range of issues. The number is 0808 802 0925 and the opening hours are: Monday 10am-6pm, Tuesday, Thursday & Friday 10am-4pm, Wednesday 10am-1pm & 5pm-7pm.
Gingerbread Dan11 February 2020 at 12:54 pm #36623
Thanks but we’ve tried everything to get extra money and have all we are entitled too, having own home and mortgage and working really limits help. Currently trying to sort a school problem as a teacher called my daughter a terrible shocking word when she made a mistake with her work. No doubt teacher will deny it despite other students hearing. Just hate this all so much and find it all so hard by myself. I have managed to sell some outgrown toys today so that’s a little help and I’m trying to see what I can do to find or find a car. I’m tired and feel unwell but hate moaning and complaining so much. Thanks moonwhisper for taking time to reply it was very kind. My teenager does odd jobs and gives me the few pounds but I put it aside for him for things he needs. I can’t save as literally living hand to mouth (less than). It’s amazing how single parents work so hard to get nowhere and cope with no hope of things ever improving.11 February 2020 at 1:54 pm #36626
Hi Drowning, where in the country are you based?11 February 2020 at 8:40 pm #36638
could you get a lodger in? Or do AirBnB?