Hi guys,
I’m new on here. I am feeling very apprehensive. I told my ex to go in August after 8 long years. He was controlling and aggressive. Yet he is a good dad to our 2 yr old daughter and 6 yr old son. We have sorted and stuck to a routine of him having the children every weekend and Wednesdays until bedtime. He is at his mums but has a rental lined up in 10 days.
Today I feel physically sick. After lots of up and downs with money and arguing, I have rang Child Maintenance today and they will now sort. He will receive a letter tomorrow. I am worrying as I know he will go mental. He has been very up and down emotionally and sends me all sorts of abusive messages. So i had enough and thought i am not waiting for him to decide when to pay me i will get it sorted.
Invariably now I am facing a breakdown of communication with him and he will most definitely make everything much harder than it already is. He is self employed but CM told me they will go on what he earn’t last year which was a good amount.
I have a good family that are helping me a lot and support. Even so it feels so overwhelming sometimes. But i know im doing the right thing.
Any advice or help please.
thanks,
Rach