Just saying hi

[Superowls]

Hi all

Newly separated Dad of a 2yo.

Long story but found out the ex had cheated on me just after going back to work from maternity leave, kept it a secret for over a year and then came out with it one evening!  Further conversations revealed that she had been discussing what would happen when single with the guy for over a year and she spoke to him every day since she was pregnant with our IVF child.

I am absolutely at rock bottom, as per some other posts on here, it would appear that my social life was centred around her and I would look after our son while she was “running” in a club with the new guy.  Which she is still doing while passing our son to someone else to look after when I don’t have him.

Currently sharing time with son on a 3-4-4-3 basis with alternative Saturday nights etc.  I will never get used to giving him up and not seeing him for half the week!

Have to admit I am very bitter towards it all, but having to stay strong for my son and accept that what she does with him on “her” days is up to her.

Anyway, thought I would join up to say Hi!  Just looking to find some adult conversation really!

[Ada]

Hi there,

I am so sorry to hear of your situation.  Oh my, that must have all been sooo tough for you, I can’t imagine.  I’m glad you still have contact with your son though and see him regularly.  I know it is not as much as you would like though.  I have just joined on here tonight also, looking for some adult conversation too.  I would love to join a Gingerbread group and meet others in the same boat, but there isn’t a group in my area.  Is there a group in your area?

[Superowls]

Hi Ada

Yeah, we had been together for 15 years, met when we were 19 & 17.  Been through a lot together including the IVF and the 6 week early arrival that came 7 months later!  I thought I was being nothing more than the doting Dad (in fairness, if I had the time again, I would have done no different).

Just feel like such a fool really for not picking up on anything.  There is a much larger story that I won’t/don’t want to go into on a forum, but I had anonymous warnings and brushed them under the carpet.

There is a group close(ish) to where I am, so may have to give them a shout.

Where are you located?

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