I’m at breaking point! I’ve been a single parent for 11 years since my daughter was 10 months! December is always a struggle as my girl’s birthday is days before Xmas. Her dad with whom she has contact whenever he is available has always been rather sporadic with payments but has been quite good recently. I booked a cheap groupon day out for her birthday and it’s all paid but I was relying on his money to cover bus fairs and food for her and her friends now he’s called to say he can’t pay anything because it’s an expensive month for him. I have no other money – if I use the little I have left there will be no heating or electric later next week! I can’t face having to get my girl to cancel her birthday (she’s just started high school and these are new friends) but I don’t see any other way! I feel like a failure as a parent and to top it off I will lose the money I’ve already spent which could have been used for other things.
im so frustrated and ready to cry – I work full time but lately there is just not enough to go round…
I hope you don’t feel like a failure because you most certainly are not. Is there nothing he can do to help? as its his daughters birthday too. Or failing that a family member? Cancelling would have to be the very last resort but you know that.
Thanks Winnie. After a stressful night, I realised this morning that I needed to ask for help. Explained the situation to my parents and thankfully they have agreed to help me out with a short term loan to cover the party food etc, which feels like a weight has been lifted. Longer term they have agreed to sit down to help me look at my financial situation and see where I can reduce my outgoings and get on a better footing, so I don’t need to rely on my ex at all and constantly be let down. That way hopefully any money coming from him will be a bonus and can be put aside for a rainy day. Thank you for taking the time to reply