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    Singlemumoftwo85
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    why do I continue to do stupid things? I feel so alone yet I push people away all the time. I want to be happy but the universe seems to be against me. I applied for a new job but my manager has basically told me I won’t get it. Just feel like as much as I try everything and everyone is making me miserable. I feel like I am literally the only person sat in on a Friday night as my babies are in bed and I can’t go anywhere. I wouldn’t give them up for the world but sometimes when they’re in bed I feel so so lonely. I want to cry but I’m that miserable I can’t. I feel like all my mates are happy and I’m the one who brings everyone down. I honestly feel like Iv had enough

    #21709 Report

    MaddHouse16
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    I feel the same. You are not alone. I keep on trying being positive with lots of ideas to keep me going……only to end up in the same place……and it all got too much the other day.

    It sounds like maybe everyone around you is bringing you down? Your boss telling you, you won’t get the job…That’s not the kind of support you need from him/her.

    #21711 Report

    Kathymumofone
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    You aren’t the only one sat in on a Friday night. I’ve spent tonight with ds and a pizza. Fairly normal here 😊

    And you haven’t described doing anything that is stupid. When your boss said you wouldn’t get the job, did you ask why? And what’s he going to do, as your manager, to enable your career development? That is his bad management not you. You are keen to progress so he needs to up his game or at least be more constructive with feedback.

    Make Saturday a ‘cheer-up’ day.  treat yourself to something small, like a new t-short or just fluffy socks, take your little ones to feed the ducks, buy some flowers, bake a cake and ring someone for a chat – sister, friend, mum….

    music helps. Crank up the radio and dance your kids around the kitchen.

    I hope you feel better in the morning ☕️

    #21715 Report

    Vanilla Ice
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    Hey dont feel like you are not alone..You are an amazing mum giving your children the stability keeping them safe.Your attention and love is the best thing they will have to be wonderful child and you should be a proud Mum. If you ever want to chat feel free I do the same every week..Now there is something out there that will change for you, its just trying to find the right time to happen..So remember out of all this hardship there is light at the end and your children will love you for it in the end.

    #21718 Report

    Gingey28
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    Hi

    You certainly arent the only one who feels like that. My mum has my son on a wed and thurs night and thats great but i dont go out. Weekends i dont really mind staying in as im with my son but its the nights when im free that i need to make more use of instead of sitting in. Just hard to arrange with people, most friends have kids themselves or always get invited out at weekend by workmates but i dont like asking my mum as she helps enough. Saying this though im off the pub wednesday night, havent been for months so looking forward to it.

    I also have had a bad week and have snapped on people. Nearly pushed some away, which i dont want, but luckily people understand.

    You will have times you feel like you hardly have you time but yano what about the people who are always out at weekends. Maybe they go out as they dont do much else, maybe they like the freedom, maybe they are envious of people who stay in, have kids or whatever. Talking to my friends it doesnt matter how their life seems, in a relationship or not, some people get bored of the everyday things, some are unhappy with someone. Some have no kids and maybe lonely

    I only moved out of my Mums last may with my son, flat was awful nothing but issues, 9months i was unhappy. Viewed about 12 places all no good, except 1 house instantly loved, i appliefgpt turned down as they wanted professionals only. Gutted but kept looking and hated everything else i viewed. The house  came back available and i applied 2nd time and yess we now are living in our lovely little home.

    This is not a post all about me just trying to emphasise that ive had times when feel crap but things do pop up in your favour. Stick with it, its ok to have a bad week its ok to cry or not cry. Human nature but also credit yourself, dont compare as we dont know how others feel.

    Hope your weekend is well

    #21761 Report

    Hello Singlemumof two

    I’m Justine the moderator here.  Its good to see you sharing your feelings with other parents on the forum.  They can be a great support.  Just so you are aware, I’ll be sending you a private message with some further signposting options.

    Please continue to use the forum.

    Justine

    #21821 Report

    Singlemumoftwo85
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    Thank you all for your comments. Trying to pick myself up but then feel really low again. I know I can do this and I know I’ll be ok Just peaks and troughs at the moment. X

    #21822 Report

    DonnaDonna
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    Hi Singlemumoftwo85

    My first time posting here..I feel the same..no matter what I do or how positive I try to be..it just doesn’t seem enough..I feel stuck! I don’t know what to do..? Seems life is against me..I see so many people moving forward achieving things except me..feeling very low and alone xxx

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    Giveitago
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    <span style=”font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ‘Arial’,sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ‘Times New Roman’; mso-fareast-language: EN-GB;”>Hello singlemumoftwo85 & DonnaDonna, it does get better, albeit slowly and it seems to me that it is a natural progression to be taken back every time you make a step forwards, but you do move forwards, just by taking small steps at a time…. it just seems to be that way. Reach out for small simple things in your day that create small personal wins for you and your kids. You are not on your own and you too eventually will leave this “stuck point” and before long you will be offering your hand to help someone out of where you are today. </span>

    <span style=”font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ‘Arial’,sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ‘Times New Roman’; mso-fareast-language: EN-GB;”>Stay strong you two and all the best from a Dad of two …..Did you remember it is Pancake Day today, kids love pancakes, Dad’s love pancakes and Mum’s love pancakes…and if you don’t (and not intolerant in any way of the ingredients!), YOU DO TODAY,so crack out the frying pan and pancake away! </span>

    <span style=”font-size: 12.0pt; font-family: ‘Arial’,sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ‘Times New Roman’; mso-fareast-language: EN-GB;”>Give it a go.</span>

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    kentmale72
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    I think all we can do is do our best for our kids, it does make you wonder though why some of us seem to have been dealt bad cards, yet other peoples seem to breeze through life, it is also normally the good ones that seem to struggle on, I do sometimes feel maybe I was some evil sod in my previous life lol but this new life is very much like a rollecoaster highs and lows.  much hugs to all.  Paul.

    #21840 Report

    DonnaDonna
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    Thankyou Paul yes exactly I do wonder and this get to me but I do focus on my children and it gets me through gives me purpose 🙂 

    #21841 Report

    DonnaDonna
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    Thankyou Giveitago I had a good cry earlier after reading your reply I needed it 🙂

    #21880 Report

    Giveitago
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    DonnaDonna,

    I am sorry that my post made you cry, it wasn’t meant to cause any upset what so ever and I hope you are having a better day than yesterday. Be good and easy on your to self.    🙂

    #21882 Report

    DonnaDonna
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    Giveitago it made me cry in a positive way it made me feel a bit more hopeful 🙂 feel a bit better today thank you

     

    singlemumoftwo  how are you feeling today ?

    I hope you’re okay and bearing up..it’s a struggle but we keep going 🙂

    #21885 Report

    Giveitago
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    DonnaDonna, good too hear. 🙂

    Hey guys when it’s looking a little gray and before complete self consumption of not thinking straight (and sometimes it can be just the smallest thing blown out of per-portion because of other things), drop  a post or message and we can all try to lighten the moment. All for another day and tomorrow is still coming and lets aim to greet and not run away from it because when that day is done we are ready for the next. take it easy.

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