It does get easier

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    Louis
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    I  found out a few weeks ago that my wife of 25 years  was having an affair with a 21 year old she works with. She decided she wants to divorce me and  has moved out leaving me with  five children aged 7, 9, 11,14 and 17. Has you can imagine it was a shock to us especially my 17 year old  it was his work friend.

    The first weeks were a nightmare, sorting  finances, my eldest needed  counselling and coming to terms with 28 years with someone you loved, suddenly ending, Now I can honestly say things do  get better. The children and I are a lot closer, I’ve made  new friends, school have been fantastic, family have rallied around, its not been easy but I have tried to do a positive thing a day, the situation wont change, so thought It would either destroy me, then who would be their for my children or I would start a new chapter of my life at 54.

    I have signed the divorce papers, she’s admitted adultery, but I have tried to stay  friends with her not always easy, but for the children’s sake.

    So to anyone out their going through  a tough time, it will get better, stay strong, get as much help and advice as you can, and try do at least  one positive thing a day.

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    Empty
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    Thank you so much for posting. Had a tough time today. I’m not ashamed of my feelings for my children, so, yes, I am crying. I so much need to know it will get better. I just don’t know how or when. Just hearing from you that it might means I can get through one more hour.

    Thank you.

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    Louis
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    Just try to take each day as it comes, try not to think of what might happen, just  concentrate on getting through the day, don’t be  afraid to let your feelings out, you will have good and bad days, don’t be afraid to seek help and advice, its not always easy but look at yourself in the mirror each day and say  I’m going to do this for my children and me.

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    halfmein12
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    It pays atimes to do the needful. I salute your encouragement anyways. Some women are promiscuous they don’t find it easy to adhere with their hubby and children only instead they flirt aroun. I signed divorce papers already with my ex-wife when the union didn’t work out. I am with my kid now which is 7years.

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