Hi there. I would really like any advice, opinions and general comments on my situation.
I have been married nearly 7 years, been together 9 years but we have been separated for 5 weeks. We had 3 children living with us and she has moved out taking the older one and leaving me with the 2 younger ones. I know I have not been the best husband I could be but we have both made mistakes but it feels like I am paying a higher price. I trust her and don’t believe there is a third person. I am coming to terms with it but I want to be in the best place possible so that she chooses to come back. She bought up the idea of her moving out and I was a bit stunned and also didn’t really take her seriously. Her reasons were that she thought if she stayed I would end up hating her which I could never do but that she wanted to rebuild our relationship from the foundations. We admit we drifted apart from each other and become stuck in the routine of life as we both work and share the child care which we continue to do. I tried to do things together but didn’t get much interest although I know I could have tried harder. I am trying to do anything I can to make things as easy on her as possible but i’m not sure this is the right thing to do as I think I may be pushing her away a bit. We have talked a lot over the last few weeks whenever possible and I think we are making progress it just feels like she isn’t as committed as I am but I could be wrong.
Thanks for posting. I am hoping that we will be having some family therapy but I’m not sure if she really wants it. I certainly do. I don’t have many friends or family that can help but I’m OK with that. Ive claimed for the benefits that I can. I think some of the issues go back before I knew her and she’s had a lot to deal with recently. It’s just really hard because we see each other several times a week because of the kids mainly but every time she goes again it’s awful.