Insists he only wanted a breather???

[BrightlightsParticipant]

Morning all,

I’m new here and newly single mom to 3 fabulous kids 13,11 and 3.
My story and im sorry to go on started in August when I found out husband was texting someone at work. He insists he was asking someone for “advice”, wouldn’t show me the text messages though and insistent this person worked in HR and ex marriage counsellor. Turns out she was the cleaner, a grandmother and not an ex marriage counsellor ( I had to find this out for myself by phoning his work I was angry). He told me he didn’t love me, didn’t want to kiss me didn’t even want to hold my hand

I kicked him out, few days passed. He came back.
Things I thought were improving. Then one Friday night he came home and it started all over again. “I don’t love you, don’t want to touch you”.
Sat in the car at the kids rugby match, he told me he would come back and finish doing up the kitchen, would always be here for me etc. I gave him my wedding ring and he took it.

thanks for reading all that-

now he’s insisting it was only for “few days”. I didn’t get that impression?!so I rang his mother who he’s staying with who says the same. Am I going mad or something??!
he comes for the kids on a Friday till Sunday morning, and I’m more mad with the lies than anything else want to scream at him.

anyone else get told “oh it was only for a few days and you’ve done all this”

thanks for reading my drivel

[Julienne12Participant]

Hi just read your page and yes I’m new and have never done this so bare with me I’m newly separated and still finding it hard yes my now ex said the same going through a mid life crisis and it was only banter with someone else on the phone till I found out it wasn’t my kids are grown up but it still hurts them men think they can come and go but us wives have to mop it all up we can’t let them walk all over us thanks if you read this x

[EmmaJ84Participant]

He sounds like he’s very confused, so no wonder you are too! I think its important that you put some boundaries in place and think about what you want. You cant control what he does, but you can control what you will allow and what you will accept from him in terms of his behaviour. Put yourself first and dont put up with any rubbish. You don’t deserve to be messed around this way.

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