Incubation period

[backontheshelf]

My kids Dad has refused to move out of his parents house, so left me with the kids for the past month. Given the kids have not socialised with anyone in a month and i have only been to the shops once a week (as has he) are the kids really a risk to his parents now?

[Lulublue]

There are many different views on this..

but personally I think he’s doing the right thing, especially if his parents are over 70, he’s reducing the risk. It’s so hard to get deliveries, so he may have to go out for them, which he may not want to do, but has too.
I know a couple of dads who aren’t seeing there children at the moment and they are finding it so hard! But at the same time they are also thinking of the health of other people they live with,  the mother of there children and themselves.
Personally, I wouldn’t be too hard on him (from what you’ve said) he’s trying to do the right thing and with all the tech now, he can play an active role through lockdown via video calls.

[backontheshelf]

Thanks for the reply, i wish i had your faith in him, but then i know what he is capable of and how he twists things to his advantage and he is not staying with his parents because he has to financially or because they need his help.

Despite that though, the kids have had no contact with anyone for 26 days and are perfectly healthy, I’m just wondering how long I am supposed to do everything 24/7 for whilst he does nothing.

He is not one of those Dads pining for his children. He can barely do a half hour FaceTime a week, and I’m not sure I believe that FaceTime is active parenting, it keeps a conversation/connection going, but its not parenting.

[Lulublue]

I know that feeling. My child’s dad hasn’t had any contact for a year.

I’d just let it go and enjoy the time with your children, try not to get stressed about it, they obviously need your support, if he’s not willing to make the effort. You can’t force someone to parent.
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[Nikki8er]

Its normally 2 weeks of the whole household having contact with no one not going out etc but some children could have it and not show any symptoms so if they have it and you dont know the average person has it for 23 days from when the symptoms come out so in theory best not to go near vunerable or elderly for the 12 weeks they have to stick too.

Just have to get on with it 24/7  dont be to hard on him he only following govenment guidlines.

I’ve not seen or heard from my boys dad for years it just becomes normal just have to pick out the good times, take some demand off the children and it makes it a bit easier for you.

[backontheshelf]

Just to update this to show what i am dealing with, he has a rental property that the tenants want to move out of and he is refusing to move into it when they move out

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