Coming out of a very long relationship. I have 3 children with him who are very young.
I found out he had an affair. After alot of obvious anger and upset I said I would be prepared to put all to one side and try and work at the relationship. He doesn’t want to know. He has decided to end the relationship. Currently he still lives in the house but we sleep separately and he is out at work during the day.
He has told me that he will be moving out. His only concern at present is how he will see the kids. We both don’t want the children upset. He doesn’t want them to know he has gone. He wants to come round after work and be here till bedtime and wants to stay over (on the sofa) every other weekend. I have said this can happen occasionally (the staying over ) but not on a regular basis. I haven’t disagreed to him seeing the children at all. He isn’t happy and wants me to rethink. I have said no.
Am I being unreasonable? How am I to move on if I agreed to what he wants? He tells me that I’m being selfish and just thinking of me and not the kids. Posting this to get some advice