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    Over the weekend my partner of 8 years informed me he no longer felt the same about me and no longer wanted to be together.

    We have a beautiful 2 year old daughter.

    I am absolutely devastated and I am really really struggling because I have supported him through so much I’ve the years. And forgave so much and now he decides that he doesn’t want me is utterly heart breaking.

    He has gone back to him mums but is wanting to come round to have a couple of hours with our little girl and putting her to bed which how can I argue with. I try and stay out the way when he’s here but last night he told me he still wants me in his life, still wants to talk, see us ect… but I think I’m finding that extremely difficult. He says he would still do anything for me and can’t fault me as a partner or a mother. But doesn’t love me in the way I love him. I obviously want it to be amicable for our little girl but this is so fresh for him to be so friendly with me.

    I have had a lot of lonely thoughts since he’s been gone including not.wanting to carry on living. You all must think I’m crazy as I have a beautiful little girl who I must go on for but sometimes I just can’t shake this feeling.

    I was just hoping there where in others in a situation similar to mine.



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    There’s a whole world of people in similar positions to you,no one thinks you’re crazy at all.The situation is enough to make any1 feel or go crazy! It’s really difficult when feelings and emotions are involved abroad they always are bc we are human- but I’m not sure if people who walk out on their kids are.

    Loads of💗 try to take it an hour at a time for now.

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    Hi Erin1690

    I’m Justine, one of the moderators here at Gingerbread.  I’m sorry you are going through such a difficult time.  There will be parents here on the forum that may have experienced similar situations and have come out the other side. They are a supportive bunch and I hope you continue to chat.  I will be sending you some signposting so please do look out for a private message from me.

    Best wishes, Justine

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    Hi, i’m in a similar boat, partner of 25 years and we share a 7 year old son told me last thursday were through.  I am so struggling with the forthcoming loss sometimes it feels like it takes all my strength not to just grab hold of my son and never let him go. I think perhaps i am in need of some specialised bereavement counselling but with no money and wait lists for anything free what are we meant to do.

    Please try and look after yourself, i know its the hardest thing to do and im failing there too (lost half a stone in a week!) but we must try to do our best for our kids. As someone said to me yesterday – you are stronger than you know.

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