My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years, we decided to try for a baby at the beginning of the year and I am now 7 months pregnant. I’m so excited to become a mum for the first time, however my boyfriends behaviour is ruining my experience.
he has always liked a social drink, however over the last year or so it’s been drinking a lot more than usual. He doesn’t know his limits and tbh I really don’t like “drunken” him. He has horrible hangovers and always lets me down with plans because he doesn’t want to get up and do anything. I don’t feel like I am a priority anymore, he really isn’t the same person that I fell in love with.
2 weeks ago I told him he had to make changes in his life or he would loose me, it took a lot for me to do this however my baby does not deserve to be let down constantly. We talked through things, he said he has a drinking problem which led to him attending a counselling session. I was so proud that he opened up and I thought It meant he was going to make a proper go at being the man our baby deserves.
This week he has been out 3 times with his friends drinking and not getting home till after I’ve gone to bed. Last night he didn’t even come home.
I know that he needs help, but I don’t think I can be the one to help him. Am I a horrible person for walking away? Should I be supporting him through this for our baby? This is such a hard decision for me as I know who he can be, and I know that he would make such a great father to our baby, if he made the right choices.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated