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    Red1978doa
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    Hi, I have never joined a single parents group. Or any parents group as it happens  I’m 42 years old. I have a 7 nearly 8 year old daughter (only child).  I’m quite old as far as school mums go. Also I’m not amazingly social on first meetings although you’d never believe it once you get to know me.  I would like to meet genuine people with children similar age for play dates and hopefully friendship.

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    Timefortea
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    Hello!

    I know it seems all rather daunting but there are plenty of Mothers & Fathers (as I’m sure you know) in your situation.

    I believe there is a single parent group search on here so maybe you could try that and find out if there are people local to you.

    I am open to chatting via private message should you wish 😊.

    Nonetheless I do hope everything works out for you!

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    JBLA
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    Hi red 🙂

    Am not in Bolton, but it might be worth checking if there is a local group active.

    We’re not far off in age & I have a 7 year old too! 🙂

    Maybe it’s the maturity, but I tend to take things slow with people & get to know them first too. No harm in this. 🙂

    Hope the hols are going well for you both.

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    Nicbwfc
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    Hi I’m 46 in bolton with a 9 year old and 4 year old.

    I’m seriously considering leaving my partner after 29 years.Hr is controlling no patience with the kids constantly trying to put me down. I can’t take anymore.

    I have decided its over and want to sell the house we both have our names on the mortgage.

    I feel so lonely right now and I feel like such a bad mum.

    Maybe we could have a chat and meet up .what area are you from?

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    Timefortea
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    Hello Nicbwfc,

    I’m sorry you are going through so much alone.
    Unfortunately I’m not in your area, which isn’t helpful but I thought I could comment on the part of you feeling as though you are a bad Mum.

    My Mother left my Step Father after approx the same amount of time in marriage and for the most part she was very unhappy as he had similar tendencies as what you described your husband has, when she did eventually decide to leave him it was like she had a whole new lease of life and became herself again. I only know this as I had a very close relationship with her before she passed a couple of years ago.

    The point is seeing her happy was the nicest thing for us as children to see and to be honest for the most part she was like a single Mum anyway as he was never consistent in the way he “supported” her.

    Obviously children take divorce differently but your children are young and with time they may understand that it was the right decision for you.

    I think the fact that your thinking about how this will impact your children demonstrated that you are far from a bad Mother, as you will see on this forum there’s plenty of people who have really awful experiences from the other parent deciding they want no involvement in children’s lives which shows lack of thought for the impact on their children. Which you are not doing.

    I wish you all the strength in the world! 😊- Do call the helpline to get guidance on the splitting process.

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    Andrew uk
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    Hi. I was born in Blackburn. Living in London now. 2 kids. Son 9 daughter 4. I’m 50. 42 isn’t old! You’re welcome to the group.

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