Grrr why are exes so annoying during separation. My ex called earlier today to say he would call our daughter before bed (she has been asking where daddy is since dinner). Just had to call him now at 8pm and he was on his way into town for a night out so he had no plans to call at all?! So unreliable, yet again different priorities!! (He only has her 2 nights a week as it is) Anyone else experience this joy? He has also decided he is picking her up from her classes tomorrow erm no, you got her sunday we already have plans! Plus we have a system in place it doesn’t change when you feel like it… So irritating! I might set up a calendar with his days scheduled on it 🤣
Hello Kanger1, yep I know the plan change thing quite well and it is very annoying and it just keeps on going and going and going unless you step in with a little organisation and you got it right when you mentioned using a calendar, it also helps that the kids can see and follow the days of what happens and when, plans are great and necessary with kids. Another thing it does do is make mum and dad constantly aware of what is what also, but it doesn’t mean that mum and dad cannot have a “respectable movement of the rule” as long as things are well communicated and everyone is happy.
It shouldn’t mean either just because mum or dad upset the routine that they can automatically chip into the others time just because they want to! I think when you stick to the routines of the kids daily lives (both mum and dad) eventually a more healthy environment and tolerance should start to form…. and a more working together approach for the kids should form. I too wait for that day, but keep trying and trying to get it right is very difficult
Try the calendar thing (I do) it works…. and stay strong in your routine.
Happy Friday – have wee gin for medicinal purposes 😉
I have gone through the same. He would come and pick up the kids and bring them back whenever he felt like it. I had to go through court procedures to be able to manage that, but perhaps is better for you to try in amicable way to use the calendar.