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    Yoli82
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    Hi

    I am new to this and don’t know how or what I should say, but here goes, my name is Landa and I have recently separated from my husband of 18 years. I have a 16 year old girl and a 8 year old boy. I am lonely and no one to talk to but me. I have rheumatoid arthritis and have to live with pain every day which is hard but going through this feels worse than death. I never thought I would be alone but suddenly I am and don’t know how to move on. My life was taking care of the kids and my husband. I always wanted friends but don’t know how to meet people. Here is hoping I meet someone here. Thanks for reading this.

    #53059 Report

    GingerbreadGee
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    Hi Landa,

    I am one of the moderators on this site and I am sorry to hear of your situation. Hopefully some other single parents get in touch soon.

    Just to let you know that we have a single parent friendship group running in the Finsbury Park and Hackney area. The coordinators running these groups are volunteers and are single parents themselves.  It could be another good way of connecting with other single parents.

    If this is something that might be of interest to you, please search for the groups in our group finder below

    https://www.gingerbread.org.uk/community/single-parent-groups/groups/

    Thanks

    GingerbreadGee

    #53122 Report

    Gummibear123
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    Hi Landa,

    Please don’t feel so alone-bc your not!

    I’m really sorry for the situation you are in,it really hurts.In your case physically And emotionally.I’m not sure which is worse.

    You voiced exactly what a lot of people on this site have gone/are going through.It is really awful at times,and there’s no easy way over it or under it….just have to go through it.Sometimes it helps me to think when I’m having a ‘down’ day that after this it has to go ‘up’ so that’s something to look forward to ,but it’s not easy at all.I find it helpful not to use comments like ‘moving on’ etc even to myself bc that has never made any sense to me.Life is a process which we are constantly moving through and there’s no need to add pressure or try to live by anyone else’s timetable.The only thing you can do is try to get through this tragedy by acknowledging your grief/loss,being kind to yourself and slowly healing.Wish it was as easy as it sounds.Hope you have a better day tomorrow💗

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    Yoli82
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    Thank you for kind words. They say time heals all wounds but for me it is hard to pick up the pieces and reset my life. I really believed marriage is for life and I never considered it may not be. No back up plan all my dreams and plans were for us until we were old and grey. And now I have to decide how we share the kids and that breaks my heart I can’t stay without my kids.

    #53178 Report

    Yoli82
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    I did message the finsbury park group but still haven’t heard from them. Hoping though because I need some face to face interaction.

    #53180 Report

    GingerbreadGee
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    Hi Landa,

    That is really positive to see another single parent responding to your post and that you contacted the Finsbury Park group.  Please bear in mind that our groups are run by single parent volunteers with many working full time too alongside family life.  Hopefully the coordinator gets in touch soon.

    Thanks

    GingerbreadGee

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