I feel I may loose friends through my separation

[Spirit]

Hi All,

I’ve been feeling down the last few days as the realisation of loosing groups of friends through the separation from my husband. Has anyone go advice on this subject?

 

Thanks

S

[Nick35]

Hi Spirit

I can totally understand why you think that might happen but again a true friend would never leave you in your hour of need. Talk to them and see what they think, you would be surprised for sure. Also, you can always make new friends…whenever you are ready too. Try to remain positive

N

 

[Spirit]

Thank you Nick,

I guess I just feel I’ve had so many things thrown at me recently from my ex it’s just another thing added on top of everything sadly. Yes of course there’s always the people who truly have your back and the fact that new friends can be and will be made as I move forward with my new life.

No ones said anything but it’s just the realisation that I might not at the moment be able to mix in some of the groups I did before with my husband as I wouldn’t want to put anyone in a difficult or uncomfortable position. Honestly it seems a silly thing to think but I’d been invited to a friends party as has my ex. I said I’m not sure I’d feel comfortable turning up to the party where he may bring his new gf. He’s just made life more difficult for me and I’d never asked for the separation in the first place.

Yes I will try to remain positive but as everything is so raw at the moment at times that’s pretty hard to do sadly.

Thank you for your reply x

 

[Nick35]

It can  be upsetting to attend a party where your ex is invited too, but if i ever learned one thing, is this : life doesn’t stop just because you are not together anymore and your friends do care about you as much as they care about him too, that will explain the fact that you both have been invited. If i were you, i would put on my best clothes and attend the party 🙂 trying to have fun and pay no attention to him, regardless of how difficult would be to see him with someone else. Someone has to be the adult and that has to be you. The sooner you accept the facts and move on, the better for you. Leaving is always easy, staying behind and trying to make things work…not everyone can do that unfortunately.

I had to let go to the love of my life. I wasn’t wanted, i was disrespected and our relationship turned toxic, not good for the kids or me. So i decided that enough is enough. 2 month ago i wasn’t so strong, but today i am, and it will only get better. Hope you will have the strength to move on…his loss for sure. Sending you a big hug and lots of love

N

[Nick35]

P.s my ex said that our friends don’t like me and they are only pretending to like me and they talk to me just because I’m was his wife…to my surprise all of them they talk to me more than they talk to him, now that we are separated…so you see, there is hope 🙂

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