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    I’ve finally decided that I need to leave my partner. I’m just so miserable and have been for years. We are not married, we have two children, 7 and 5.
    he has a very well paid job. I work 20 hours a week so have some money, but not much.
    the house is in his name.
    Ive told him I want to leave but he said he will make it difficult for me. He doesn’t want me to go as he thinks it will devestate the children, but I’m so unhappy, I just can’t stay any longer. I don’t even like him any more, let alone love him!  He deals with everything financially.
    I just don’t know where to start, or if I could cope on my own(financially) (I know I could be a single mum as we virtually live separate lives and I do everything on my own anyway.)

    where would I live? What would I be entitled to?
    If I move out, where would I go?
    I would have to move out because even though it is our house, it’s all in his name.
    Im just so clueless and confused. I called the CAB for advice and they recommended this website.
    Any help and advice appreciated please xxx

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    Divine empress

    Hi there I’m sorry your going through that it can be tough, if you have a friend or family member who would be willing to put you up for a few weeks arrange that if it’s too unbearable to stay then report yourself as homeless to the council they will put you up in temporary accommodation, the best way would be to not give your partner any information on where you are going until you have fully moved into your permanent new place (if he isn’t a danger to you and your children) , you will have to apply for income support and also make Csa aware that you are a single parent and you require help from your children’s father they will do the rest this is to make sure you get regular payments to help you with the cost of raising your children alone hope this helps x

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    Although i have no advice for you i can empathise.  I am going to tell my husband this morning that our relationship has run is course.  I just cant live like this no more,  Im full of resent and angry towards him.  One question a web site asked was ‘where do you see yourself in 5 years time?’  The thought of me being stuck like this just hit home.  I have to get out and now its gonna be difficult but at least ill be in a better mental state.


    Also,  i think your entitled to something in the house regardless if its just in his name.


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