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    Siany2103
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    my husband left me – ask to try again – and then left me again! All within two months. I found out he’s cheated on all of his partners.
    I feel humiliated, a failure, lonely, desperate.
    I dated a man who I didn’t find attractive and even slept with him because I feel so rejected.
    I have children and they are watching their mum desperate and crying.I’m even online dating and it’s just bringing me down.
    I don’t know how to change. I don’t know how to stop this feeling.
    I feel like I’m the only single person in the world. I’m looking at people’s left hands to see if they have a ring. I’m such a pathetic person.
    feeling incredibly depressed

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    Sarah
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    Hello, you have been treated badly and that’s awful enough without you beating your self up on top of it all. Your in shock and grief that’s all, allow yourself time to feel your feelings be them heartbroken, lonely and sad , these are natural feelings it’s ok , your husbands behaviour isn’t a reflection of you it’s a reflection of him. You just need to give yourself time to grieve your relationship that’s all x

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    Timefortea
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    Hi Siany2103,

     

    I’m sorry you are going through such a hard time!
    I think you are obviously going through a huge change in your life that will take a very long time to get used to but it’s important to go through the motions such as @Sarah said.

    You certainly aren’t pathetic or any of the above! I know despite what people will tell you here or in your personal life your still going to have those same emotions about yourself as it’s normal thing for us as individuals to do, despite the outside support we receive.

    From what I have seen a lot of people find ways to turn their unfortunate life events into something positive. Try and find something you enjoy and put all the energy you have into that, even if it’s just an ounce of energy.

    Rebound relationships are certainly not unheard of but I would be wary doing this just in case anyone tried  to take advantage of you whilst your in a fragile state (if you don’t mind me saying).

    I do hope things improve for you!

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    Vintagedresser
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    It will take time but you need to learn to love being who you are and your life as a single woman. You really don’t need a man hun they are not the be all and end all. What we need is to find the thing we love and then work from there. Trust me once you let go of the negative you get to choose exactly what you want from anyone and from your life. Plus your gorgeous you look like you need to be in a commercial. Don’t waste tears on someone who isn’t doing the same ok lovely ❤

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    Siany2103
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    Thank you so much. I’m feeling so damn low. Your words really help me up

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