Hi all. I’m new to this site. I found it yesterday when googling. My husband (17 years together with 2 small children) left us on boxing day. He’d been planning it for a while apparently. He’s been having an affair with someone at work. In hindsight I should have realized but I didn’t, I feel such a fool. My heart is broken. My kids hearts are broken. I don’t know what to do? I don’t want to leave/sell my house. It was our forever home. The house and area is my children’s life. I’m still in shock and can’t believe he could do this to us. We were best friends and I didn’t see it coming at all. Does anyone have any advice? Please help. Thank you x
Thank you for replying. I really really hope we can be amicable and decide everything between us without having to go through the courts. I don’t know how realistic that is though. I’m not sure where to start to be honest. I’m kind of waiting for him to contact me.
It’s nice to know that there may be light at the end of a very long tunnel. I’m glad that you have found happiness.
Hiya, I’ve just joined this site. I’m sorry to hear about what happened on Boxing Day. All I can is what a coward, take each day as it comes, it will be hard but you will start to get used to being a single mother. Just do good for your children and also yourself. I might be wrong but I be surprised if his new relationship will last ! You’ve got this xx
Thanks for replying Ann. I’m trying my best to just get on as normal. He’s not been in contact at all. I’ve put some make up on to try and discourage myself from crying when we meet friends at the park later.
I hope I didn’t cause any offence with my reply yesterday evening (I sent it before going to bed). I’ve realised very quickly that there are other users of this forum who can offer so much useful advice and support at such a stressful time, so good on you for reaching out
I have muddled my way through the past four years or so, slowly becoming more isolated along the way. What I can offer is that contacting a family solicitor was probably the best thing I did. I was scared stiff of the cost (still paying them now) but I really benefitted from having someone make informed decisions for us at a time when getting out of the front door became such an effort. I wish you the very best x